lovehurts82 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 So.. I got a new job and had posted about it. My ex messaged me about it just now, and I didn't respond right at first. Then he brings up my sweatshirt that he had asked me about last Sunday night. I had told him before we broke up that I thought I had left it at his mom's when we visited and could he please look for it and send me it if he found it. I figured he would have already sent it. Anyhow.. here's the conversation: X: Got a new job? X: well congrats, I hope it's a good one what do you want me to do with this hoodie? X: Okay well text me about it, I'm getting off here X: You here now? me: yes X: Yeah I'll see about shipping it me: Thank you X: So what's this new job all about? me: Patient Advocate in a doctor's office X: I'm very happy for you me: Thanks X: you'll need to text me your address hope things are going well otherwise troo err too me: Yeppers X: okay well, take it easy me: you too I'm not sure what it is.. but this time I didn't feel that rush of hurt and anger at hearing from him. Perhaps he's just caught me on a good day? Or perhaps I'm healing.. not healed, but healing. I know I shouldn't have probably even answered but I wanted my sweatshirt back, he knew it full well. Why is he trying to be all nicey nice and act like he gives two ****s? Feeling guilty? Why wouldn't he have just sent the damn thing the other day? Why keep it? As a tool to keep me around? The status I'm sure he saw read "Got the job! Another prayer answered and the beginning of a new chapter. Thank you Father! Life's turning out a-okay! :)" I'm not telling him details of my life. It's one he could have shared and he chose to make a life with someone else. I kept things short and to the point and I'm sure he could tell I wasn't going to just sit and carry on a conversation with him. I still plan to continue on with NC. I've now blocked him from that chat as well. I don't have him on Facebook. And I'm okay with that.
weallfalldown Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 fair play.... i had a text saying "hi, i've written you a letter with my feelings in it....what's your address so i can send it" ha bull****, it's a way to get hold of me to cause ****.....i know...... No way!....i don't have an address...haha.
Crila16 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 OMG...Love your responses. If I knew you, I'd give you a HUGE hug right now. They were the best, and he didn't know what to do. He was trying to get something out of you...but you just stayed cool like you were done. He's definitely up to something. Guys don't just contact their exes, just to say Hi. When a guy is not in love and done with you...their just done. Does he have your address to send the hoodie to? Are you going to send it to him...or is it something you can just let go of?
Author lovehurts82 Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 He has my address. All he has to do is look at his Amazon account. He's sent stuff to me a few times.
Author lovehurts82 Posted August 30, 2012 Author Posted August 30, 2012 Okay, so I can't say it didn't hurt at all.. it kinda sorta brought on hints of those old feelings of hurt.. anger.. pain. But I didn't dissolve into a puddle of tears as I would have before. One thing I /can/ happily say is that I have never once begged him to stay or to come back, not even the day we broke up. I was obviously in tears and hurting, but I've never begged for him to come back to me. I merely told him, "Okay. If this is what you want, then I wont beg you to stay with me. I want you to /want/ to be with me." And I'm happy I don't feel like I stroked his ego today either. I'm not giving him the power over me anymore. My life is moving on.. I'm moving.. have a new job.. and am learning to be happy once more. I don't /need/ him and I /will/ find someone better. We all will
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