Occu3.14'd Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I just got out of the shower, and no less than three different things happened to me. 1) When I was in the shower, I found myself wishing that I could go back to 30 showers ago.. That was when I had an intact relationship. 2) When I used my shaving cream, I wished that I could go back to the day I bought it. This would take me back a few months and all would be well. 3) I looked at a shirt in my closet, and wished it were the last time I had worn it. Again, it would take me back to when we were happy. I do this with every ****ing thing I see. Is this normal, and how the hell do I make it stop?
JasonRules Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I just got out of the shower, and no less than three different things happened to me. 1) When I was in the shower, I found myself wishing that I could go back to 30 showers ago.. That was when I had an intact relationship. 2) When I used my shaving cream, I wished that I could go back to the day I bought it. This would take me back a few months and all would be well. 3) I looked at a shirt in my closet, and wished it were the last time I had worn it. Again, it would take me back to when we were happy. I do this with every ****ing thing I see. Is this normal, and how the hell do I make it stop? Yes it is normal. I too will sometimes have a flashback when I see or grab something which belonged to myself and an ex. However, during my last breakup I actually through everything my ex gave me as a present in the garbage so I wouldn't be tormenting myself like that. I cut the cord in every which way possible. Our photographs together I put in storage because I don't want to see them. You have to take action. Everything which reminds you of a negative needs to be put in storage or thrown out. Your mental well being should be priority No. 1.
2sunny Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 It's best to "stay in the moment you're in" for the easiest way to be happy.
dayslikelikethis Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Well, the next time you wear that shirt you won't be able to say "the last time I wore this shirt we were together". Soon, you will need a new can of shaving cream and you won't be able to say "I wish I could go back to when I bought this can because all would be well". You will have a new can and your "associations" will slowly fade away.. So will your hurt as well.. At least that's what I'm counting on! I do the same thing. I think most of us do as well. She/he are likely doing the same thing. 1
yessy21 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 1. sing in the shower... it will distract your thoughts. 2. Buy yourself a new can of shaving cream. 3. Burn that shirt. it took a whole *****ng year for me to listen to maroon 5 again. im pretty sure that your healing process will be over before that.
KMC1990 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I do the exact same thing! Break-up was a little less than two weeks ago. I keep thinking, "Last time I heard this song, I was in a relationship. Last time I watched this show, I wasn't single. Last time I shaved my legs, I had a boyfriend." It's so frustrating! And a little silly, I know.
YorickBrown Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I just got out of the shower, and no less than three different things happened to me. 2) When I used my shaving cream, I wished that I could go back to the day I bought it. This would take me back a few months and all would be well. I do this with every ****ing thing I see. Is this normal, and how the hell do I make it stop? I do the exact same thing! Break-up was a little less than two weeks ago. I keep thinking, "Last time I heard this song, I was in a relationship. Last time I watched this show, I wasn't single. Last time I shaved my legs, I had a boyfriend." It's so frustrating! And a little silly, I know. @Occu3.14'd, dude, sendKMC1990 your Shaving Cream!!! @KMC1990, what's the song? maybe Occu3.14'd can sing it for you while he's showering:laugh:
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I just got out of the shower, and no less than three different things happened to me. 1) When I was in the shower, I found myself wishing that I could go back to 30 showers ago.. That was when I had an intact relationship. 2) When I used my shaving cream, I wished that I could go back to the day I bought it. This would take me back a few months and all would be well. 3) I looked at a shirt in my closet, and wished it were the last time I had worn it. Again, it would take me back to when we were happy. I do this with every ****ing thing I see. Is this normal, and how the hell do I make it stop? I do this exact same thing. That first week, I gathered everything I could and threw it away, asked a friend to delete pictures of us from my phone and Facebook (even though I eventually deactivated it) and started to buy new things. It's not going to heal you but it will help. I had to move.. which helped me a lot but that was something I had already planned to do before the breakup. Being in a house with so many memories killed me. I'm struggling today too, although I know I'm better than I was in the beginning. That anxiety I felt upon waking up has diminised significantly. I hope it stays that way, so far I haven't gone looking for what my ex is "up to". I know this would be a huge setback. I hope to not find anything out until I'm healed enough to deal with it. I would recommend this to anyone that thinks finding out the "truth" will somehow fix something. There is always time to find out the truth, the reason we feel like we need it RIGHT NOW is a temporary phase. If we can stop ourselves from searching for answers until we're healed I can almost guarantee that we won't even care to know most of them anymore. Hang in there, take it minute by minute, soon it will be hour by hour... day by day.. the new memories will take the place of the old. Let yourself feel these feelings and don't try to push them away. You miss her, that's okay and totally normal. And you're doing the right thing by posting here, there is some good advice to be had and when you feel like you're losing it, come post here instead of contacting her. Keep reminding yourself that it will take time and that as much as you wish it would go away right now, it's not a race to the finish line. You will get there when you are ready to.
KMC1990 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 @Occu3.14'd, dude, sendKMC1990 your Shaving Cream!!! Hehehe Saw that one coming! lol
YorickBrown Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Hehehe Saw that one coming! lol Oh NO you didn't!!! Occu3.14'd is 1) probably taking a shower again, 2)putting on his old, sad shirt, and 3) coming over to you personally bringing his shaving cream Both your silly sentiments solved!!!
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