AlexanderJames Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Well in case you don't know my story here's the relevant points. My ex broke my heart (after I left her and made endless effort to reconcile which seemed to be working) she made it look like we were getting back together. All my friends already assumed we were. But then she left. She immediately started txting me saying "I'm always here for you if you need me xx" For a couple of weeks after she would txt me every day or two being nice and making sure I'm okay. Eventually I could not deal with it any more so I sent her a kind hearted message involving past memories and ending with I love you, but I have to let you go, should you come back I will love you forever but until then this is goodbye" and she replied "okay sorry sometimes I forget and want to say hi. Catch ya xx" Two days after this I took some of her belongings and things she had given me which I did not want to throw out around to her father so I wouldn't have to see her. Still no contact was made. A week goes by, thankfully no attempts at contact had been made either way yet. But today I get home from work and theres a bag with the things I dropped off and a note at my door saying "I DONT WANT YOUR ****!!!" What do people think is her intentions? What do you think caused her to be so childish and petty when 4 weeks earlier she had broken my heart and told me she was there for me. We were friendly up until I initiated NC which didn't cause any conflict at all. For what it's worth I've just assumed she's feeling guilty and needed a quick safe way of making herself feel better by making my actions out to be cruel. I was pretty mad, not upset. But her childishness did trigger some frustration. I quickly let it pass and told myself that regardless of her intentions I do not want her in my life. I didn't grace her with any replies or retaliation. As much as would have liked ripping her a new one for being a child. But I know it's not worth it. If anything it will help her with whatever she's playing at. So continuing NC it is
Philosoraptor Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Well she's hurting as well so her anger isn't out of the ordinary. Did she pull out her belongings and just return the gifts to you? Or did she just bring it all back? As I could understand her being hurt if you returned gifts. Anyways continue to do what you feel is best right now and don't do anything that would negate any progress you have made. Choosing to not retaliate was a smart move.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 20, 2012 Author Posted June 20, 2012 She didn't even take her things out of the bag.. Just brought it all back. The way I see it, is she had a chance to have me and she turned me away. Her actions show me that she's not happy and that she's having a hard time with something to do with me. Which gives me the power. I'm not giving her a reaction, that's what she needs. Instead I'm lettin her actions fall on deaf ears.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 Just thought I'd bump this for all the members who have been following my story. Will post a new thread with how Im feeling today
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