HollyBolly Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I will try to keep this as short as possible. Please bear with me. I am a 41-year-old woman. My gf (30) and I broke up 5 weeks ago. I had tried to break up with her 2 weeks prior to that and she begged me to give her one last chance. Reason I broke up with her initially was because she showed no support after my dog was hit and killed in an accident on Christmas. Not only was she killed but the roads crew who picked up her body treated it like trash. So, I started a petition to stop that from happening again. Not only did my ex refuse to sign it, I learned later that she'd said to one of our friends that she didn't understand what the fuss was about, which really hurt. That was my child! Anyway, I stupidly gave her the one last chance that she asked for. I found out later that 5 days after I gave her that chance, she sent a suggestive photograph of herself to a mutual, married, male friend of ours. A bit of background: We met each other when she applied for a job at my restaurant. She was hired. She was married. She said happily at that point but then said it wasn't so after. She got pregnant. She started to seduce me. I was single and lonely. I fell for it. When she left her then husband she didn't want him to tell their friends she had left, which led me to think that she still wanted him as a safety net. At that point I didn't much care because I didn't even think it would amount to much, our fling or whatever it was. She showered me with attention and praise and whatever she thought I needed. I handled her divorce for her. She had absolutely NOTHING good to say about her husband. He was emotionally abusive, inattentive, selfish, etc. Years down the line, she is accusing me of alienating her ex husband. We left things rather bitter, I must say. I have never lied to her. Always been very straightforward and upfront with her in everything. The moment she got another job, she changed. She didn't need me anymore. It was as though my expiration date had come up. Had I not found out that she had sent that photograph, she would've blamed the failure of our relationship entirely on me. I am left wondering if this is a case of G.I.G.S. or if she's just ****ed up? She cheated on her ex husband with some guy not one year into their marriage. Nothing came out of that because the guy turned out to be bi-polar. Then she cheated on him with me, and left him. NOW, she was trying to cheat on me. No doubt she would've left me sooner if she had been successful. I'm wondering if this is G.I.G.S. because she got a new job. Not that it matters anyway, because I will never take her back. Still, I wouldn't mind some opinions. Thank you.
gibson Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I don't believe this is G.I.G.S. G.I.G.S. is what happens to people after they have been in a long term relationship / marriage that they entered into in their teens and early twenties. They suddenly have the need / desire to go an experience what they believe they "missed out" on due to the long term relationship / marriage. If you look in the marriage / divorce forums you see G.I.G.S. divorces / problems with couples in their mid to late twenties. If you look in the break up section (non married people) it's usually people between the ages of 18 - 25. Your "ordeal" is just a messed up person, if you ask me.
Author HollyBolly Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 I don't believe this is G.I.G.S. G.I.G.S. is what happens to people after they have been in a long term relationship / marriage that they entered into in their teens and early twenties. They suddenly have the need / desire to go an experience what they believe they "missed out" on due to the long term relationship / marriage. If you look in the marriage / divorce forums you see G.I.G.S. divorces / problems with couples in their mid to late twenties. If you look in the break up section (non married people) it's usually people between the ages of 18 - 25. Your "ordeal" is just a messed up person, if you ask me. Thank you. I thought it might be GIGS because, first of all, she is VERY immature - met her ex husband when she was 17 and never experienced anything after that. Second, she was VERY sheltered. Even by me. Wasn't until she got this job, via me, that she knew there were more out there. Third, she's just SO confused! Now she wants a man again. But, yeah, she is probably just messed up.
gibson Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Thank you. I thought it might be GIGS because, first of all, she is VERY immature - met her ex husband when she was 17 and never experienced anything after that. Second, she was VERY sheltered. Even by me. Wasn't until she got this job, via me, that she knew there were more out there. Third, she's just SO confused! Now she wants a man again. But, yeah, she is probably just messed up. Sounds like G.I.G.S. to me with the additional information you provided above. Unfortunately, you are just one of their "victims" and not really a G.I.G.S. dumpee. G.I.G.S. people act like it's spring break in Cancun and go through a lot of people (you for example), changes and are pretty much immature, thrill seeking and self-absorb brats. Having any sort of meaningful relationship with them while they are G.I.G.S.(ing) is impossible.
Author HollyBolly Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Sounds like G.I.G.S. to me with the additional information you provided above. Unfortunately, you are just one of their "victims" and not really a G.I.G.S. dumpee. G.I.G.S. people act like it's spring break in Cancun and go through a lot of people (you for example), changes and are pretty much immature, thrill seeking and self-absorb brats. Having any sort of meaningful relationship with them while they are G.I.G.S.(ing) is impossible. I have chalked it up to personality disorder. **** her! Thank you, though.
Author HollyBolly Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 What does GIGS stand for/mean? Grass is Greener Syndrome.
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