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[Wudd]

be weary there is alooooot to read.

 

 

Heres a little back story. my girlfriend(17) and I(18), just recently broke up about a weekago. We have been together over 2 and a half years. In the beginning our relationship was great. But after the one year mark, we did fight alotttt. about anything and everything. we went through fazes of fighting and on and off breaking up. but things got better. and here we are more then 2 and a half years later. things have been going a lot better then before. but yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me. i honestly didnt see it coming. well tonight we talked. she told me the main reasons. number one is that she is going to collage. its about 60 miles away. the second reason, is because i currently do not have a job. i admit sense i graduated i took a very lazy and procrastinated route. i have worked odd jobs. but I've never had, i guess what most would be considered a real job. ive mowed lawns, helped on farms, and things of that nature. just to get by in high school. i do find it hard to be motivated, i use to see a counselor because i had personal issues. anyway, my girlfriends main concern was that i would just keep her back from succeeding. with our talk the night after we broke up i told her that i love her and i understand her point of view and im not upset. we got along well on the phone. and she even told me she loves me. which took me by surprise, sense we are broken up. i really love her. im not the type of guy who goes out looking for relationships. ive only dated one other girl before her. so i really do feel that i love her. i realized this half way through the relationship because nothing not even fighting keep us apart. i also think she feels the same about me.

 

but now a few days have passed. as she stated before she said she wanted to still be friends. so every couple of days ill text her and ask her if she wants to talk, or grab a bite to eat. or go bowling, as friends. i make it clear im not trying to win her back. just get our friendship off to a good start. but im usually met with no reply. i mean i believed her when she said she wanted to be friends... but honestly shes coming off as not even wanting anything to do with me.

im not being to pushy. or bother some. so i do not understand why im met with no response. i would say something but im kind of worried ill get angry. or that she wont even care and still not respond.. i would love to be friends like she said. but its kinda hard when she acts likes this.

 

well this afternoon i sent her a text asking to go play bingo with some friends. she responded by saying, what why, i really dont want to. so i told her that it would be fun, and get the friendship off on a good foot. but she ended up saying no and maybe tomorrow. now later on tonight i asked if we could possibly talk. she said not at the moment. but later she said. so i waited a while and called.... nothing... me being kinda inexperienced in break ups. did the whole breaking down and bugging kind of deal... i sent her a lot of text. and realized this probably isnt helping by bugging her with my pain and upset ness that im going through. so i sent her one last text telling her i was sorry for all the annoying messages. i let her know i was acting this way because im having a hard time dealing with the relationship... and i left my last text at that. now is there anyway i can redeem my self? i dont want to ruin that chance that we might of had to do something fun to start our friendship in the right direction. how should i go about asking her if she wants to do something tomorrow like she said she maybe wanted to do?