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My mother is 77 and physically in good shape. She's very active in city government, volunteering and church activities. Lately she's exhibited memory issues that I'm not sure how much I should worry about - what's normal for her age, and what represents a potential issue. I'll give two examples. (1) I was traveling to meet her (we live a few hundred miles apart) at an out-of-town event, and as requested, when I reached my hotel that night I texted her to let her know I made it safely. She responded, thanking me for letting her know, and saying she would see me at a specific tim

She says she likes her own company. I understand this, but would be nice if she allocated some time to sit with me. She used to enjoy laying on me/cuddling/holding hands, now all of a sudden doesn't. She has had issues with anxiety which I understand, I have similar issues. But her anxiety is considerably better than it was, and she's even more distant. We've been living together for 15 years, so before the marriage. She cried when she put the ring on, they looked like happy tears, I certainly thought she was happy to get married.

I divorced my ex because of an affair. We stayed together, while divorced. I didn't want to lose my kids 50% or more of the time. I had good reason to believe she wasn't continuing to be unfaithful. Still, the affair was constantly on my mind. I knew I'd be better off if we separated. Eventually the kids grew up and left home. At about the same time, her father started needing more and more care to remain in his home, 2,000 miles away. She started spending more time there than here. Eventually just visiting here for a few days at a time, every few months. I never went to visit her.

Why do people keep making dates with people who live 2 hours away??? I literally don't understand. Why make things so difficult? So if you did hit it off with the person and want to date them longer term, it would be a 2 hour commute every time you see each other? That is just ridiculous. This all sounds like way more trouble than it's worth.

OP, more info is needed. Has anything changed lately? Does your wife have grievances with you? Have you talked to her about those issues? Has she explained to you why she is like this? Her coldness coincides with the marriage. Was she happy to get married? Were you living together before the marriage?

Hello, I am not really experienced in relationship issues for someone in my age anyway, but I like to resolve this. There seems to be so much social fear around nowadays and I would like to understand why. I meet this woman at McDonalds. She works there, we where talking for a while and I gave her my number. She is 31 years old. She said she is sure she will call me. Unfortunately one of her colleagues have seen I gave her my phone number and someone complained to the manager. Ten minutes later the manger turned up on my table and advised me to keep myself to myself. T

Hi all, me and my partner got married last year. We've been together 15 years. PFor about 8 months now she's been distant, she goes up to the bedroom every evening rather than spending any time with me. She used to appreciate when I bought her flowers, now she just gets annoyed. If I tell her she looks nice, she gets angry. She used to come over and cuddle me, and used to hold hands, she hasn't done this in months. It feels like she's constantly in a mood with me and it's really bringing me down. It's like she's a different person. Feels like she's just finding excuses to have a go at me, when

Well I don't know as I've never used such sites, but I imagine that goes for most if not all hook-up only sites. You see the occasional lady of the night even on Tinder.

I'm sorry that you're going through this situation. As for contacting his girlfriend, what do you envision happening if you do so? Will it bring you closure or make you feel better? This guy's actions have shown that he is not a trustworthy or honest partner so what are you fighting for? If you have feelings of anger or resentment towards him, expressing them to his current girlfriend might make you feel better temporarily, but it won't change anything. She may not want to hear from you, as she was most likely told that you were just a casual fling. Please, next time, stop giving yo

Probably a good chunk of the women on Adult Friend Finder are trying to sell their services.

His hot and cold has NOTHING to do with what you did "right" or what you did "wrong." You are operating under a harmful delusion to think that his weirdness must be the result of something you are doing wrong. The reverse is true as well: people fall hard for us not because we are acting in some perfect way. People can fall hard for us and we really have little clue why. You really don't want to put up with this hot and cold. And you don't need to know why he is acting this way. But if you want a reason, I can give you one. When I was hot and cold, totally reflected my confusion abo

Yeah, if this is from Tinder or Bumble I'd have a lot more empathy. If you are meeting these women off Adult Friend Finder or something it's a case of well what did you expect.

He told you many times he was not looking to date, in men's language that means he was not looking to date 'you'. He never gave you any indication that you should wait for him. I am sorry you put all of your hopes in this man but it's all on you. You're 57 yo, you're really gonna play high school drama and contact his girlfriend? Who knows maybe she already knows about you. Let it go. There are many much better men out there for you. Don't waste your energy in bitterness, there aren't enough good years left in us to waste them in bitterness and vengeance.

You have identified that he was toxic and you don't want him back in your life. That's all you need to know. There is no reasons to want to know why he does that, it could be to play with you, to get back with you, to get some attention, because he's bored, because he just broke up with someone and he's looking up exes....who cares? and why do you care? Block him. Part of 'moving on' is to not look back, to not wonder why, to not be curious, and to just block and move on.

You certainly do not NEED the push/pull scenario. You deserve so much better than that.

I finally felt I moved on from my ex so set up dating app profile which my ex liked my profile... I was intrigued so i matched him but deleted the account eventually as i felt anxious. I know he's toxic for me but since he was my first big crush/love I realized he still affects me and will anyhow. I just have to live withit, and i decided to really go on some dates since i really moved on from my ex thorugh work which means i didn't date anyone for last two years, I set up a new profile last week which i found couple days later that my ex again liked my profile I am sorry but not sure wh

No, she is asking you to be respectful and not discuss your dating exploits with her because she finds that very awkward. She may or may not be interested in dating you but she has clearly said now is not the right time for her. That doesn’t mean that she wants to be one of your locker room buddies - listening to your stories about the phone numbers that you collect and the dates that you go on… She has asserted her boundary - and I would argue that it’s it’s a healthy and reasonable boundary… if you like this woman (not in the romantic way, just as a person and as a friend), you will b

This would bother me more than anything else. He is not respecting her boundaries - I would absolutely find a new therapist.

Thanks for the comment Lishy. This is my forum of choice for venting. There are some reasons outlined in the original post as to why I rather not discuss the split with anyone who knew her. Either way, most of my friends seem so beyond repair themselves that we only end up boosting each others’ sense of fatalism. I’m slightly on the fence about councelling. I was undergoing therapy for 3 years in the past and didn’t necessarily appreciate the experience, it may be difficult to explain why. I was perhaps able to identify some circular thought patterns and negative behaviours, but haven't been

I think you need to work on your confidence. You say you are very confident but also youre "doomed" because "men don't want you" and you're only 29. That doesn't suggest high self-worth to me. And also no, just being hot doesn't mean men will stick around. It might draw them in initially but if they don't vibe with your personality, or there is something else they find off putting, it will fizzle out especially if they are also an attractive man and have other options.

It's a turn-off to him. Bottom line. And yes, are these hook-up dating apps? That would obviously make more sense if it were and the women are talking openly about their casual encounters. Could be a way to open the conversation in terms of safe sex practices. Who knows?

Has the OP ever mentioned what site he joined. If he joined a site aimed at hookups and casual sex that would pretty much explain why the women acted this way.

This guy is just using and manipulating you and you refuse to get the message. He may have some insecurities that are preventing him from fully committing to a romantic relationship, but that is not your fault. Please don't internalize his issues and make this about you. Please work on your self-esteem --- saying you're "doomed" and "at 25 men didn't want me" is keeping you in a situation where you're receiving breadcrumbs from a guy who is playing with your emotions. You did nothing wrong in this situation. This guy may have found you attractive and enjoyed your company, but that's

If you suffer from anxiety then why are you trying to date a man that lives 2 hours away and on top on that a man that doesn't drive? To me that's the part that makes no sense. Stick to what's good for you meaning a man that is local, who you can see easily on weekdays, someone who can share the travelling back and forth, someone you will really get to know in person because of close proximity. You also sound like a woman carrying a past hurt on her shoulders. The man is making all types of gymnastic to meet you and your head goes right away to - he must talk to someone else, relax.

I’m not talking about what people tell you. Most people know based on what they see in the mirror. Most attractive people know they’re attractive. But, no, just being hot will not make anybody stay. I’ve date some very attractive women and didn’t pursue anything with them because we weren’t a match. So yeah, could be this.