luscious Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 How can you find happiness after being dogged for so long. how can you trust a individual when you've kept your guard up for so long. :eek: Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 To find happiness being dogged and haveing to keep your guard up to protect something so special your heart. You have so much to offer someone you know that or you would not protect it I feel the same way sometimes but, you have to keep putting yourself out their fight for love, happiness, everything wonderful and stay believing because when you can share something so great with someone and the combination of it both can bring so much beauty it's worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted May 30, 2006 Share Posted May 30, 2006 The only place you'll find happiness is within yourself. If you count on someone else for happiness, you make a huge mistake. It's all about you. Link to post Share on other sites
isatiable passion Posted May 31, 2006 Share Posted May 31, 2006 Dont give up on love. It might seem like things are bad now but just think about how great it will be when you have someone who shares everything you admire and wants to be with you. There is someone out there who you will make very happy with your heart. Never give up on love! Link to post Share on other sites
Ross_K Posted May 31, 2006 Share Posted May 31, 2006 But surely it's normal to feel unhappy in life if you can never get anyone, which therefore means you do need someone to be happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 But surely it's normal to feel unhappy in life if you can never get anyone Not in the least. What's the point of 'getting' someone? Because you think that person will have a magical formula to 'make' you feel good? All your feelings are generated from within. There are stars who are beautiful, famous, and fabulously wealthy and who have families who are still not happy. NOTHING external can 'make' you happy and you put far too much pressure on a human byexpecting her to do so. Wouldn't you freak out if you knew some woman expected you to 'make' her happy? Honestly, read Albert Ellis. Google him. He teaches people how to repair their thinking to eliminate falsehoods such as 'I need someone to make me happy.' There is much to be happy about in life - starting with the fact that you are alive and well and not living someplace that just got wrecked by an earthquake or where you could be shot or blown up every day. Cultivate gratitude for what you DO have - if all you focus on is what you don't have, you will be miserable your entire life because you will never have every single thing you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross_K Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 I don't agree. Fine, if someone always needs to be in a relationship to be happy, and would be unhappy if they were single for a few months then you have a point. But if someone is a grown adult and they have been single all their life with no sexual experiences whatsoever and can't seem to attract anyone, then it's perfectly natural and understandable that they would be unhappy because of this, let's face it it's a totally unatural way for not only a human being but for any animal to live, we we'ren't designed for that. Which therefore means to be happy they need to start experiencing relationships or flings. We're human beings, we need physical touch. If someone can live like this for the whole of their life and be perfectly happy inside, then, I think there must be something seriously wrong with them. Living with 0 sucsess with the opposite sex for the whole of your life is probably the last thing anyone would chose. Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted June 4, 2006 Share Posted June 4, 2006 The irony of this situation is that a person needs to be happy with themselves before they will attract someone to them. We can all debate the fallacy of having a goal to attract someone else, but in the end it doesn't matter. You won't achieve that goal until you have succeeded in being happy on your own. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 I don't agree. Fine, if someone always needs to be in a relationship to be happy, and would be unhappy if they were single for a few months then you have a point. But if someone is a grown adult and they have been single all their life with no sexual experiences whatsoever and can't seem to attract anyone, then it's perfectly natural and understandable that they would be unhappy because of this, let's face it it's a totally unatural way for not only a human being but for any animal to live, we we'ren't designed for that. Which therefore means to be happy they need to start experiencing relationships or flings. We're human beings, we need physical touch. If someone can live like this for the whole of their life and be perfectly happy inside, then, I think there must be something seriously wrong with them. Living with 0 sucsess with the opposite sex for the whole of your life is probably the last thing anyone would chose. i see your point, but i also know catholic priests who don't molest children and are genuinely happy in their way of life. this might seem 'unnatural' to you but i wouldn't be so quick to judge them as in the wrong cos they probably serve their communities' best interests far more than the average citizen ever will. lastly, humans and animals aren't the same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Love Hurts Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 How can you find happiness after being dogged for so long. how can you trust a individual when you've kept your guard up for so long. :eek: Many different ways........ one is just knowing you are not alone.... in your pain, nor are you the only one in the world with problems. The only people with all their problems behind them are school bus drivers. If you think your life is bad now, try doing it with out a limb. Don't like what your looks are in the mirror.. how do you think a burn victim feels. There are people in wheel chairs that would love to trade places with anyone of us and our problems just to get up out of that chair and have the ability to take the steps. The steps we take for granted each day. Remember,, no one owes us anything. We are here... We are to make the best of it. Just count your blessings.. you have alot to be thankful for.. You are not homeless. You have food, shelter, transportation, cool music, great surround system, toys, friends, and chump change in your pocket. You can put two feet on the floor and wash yourself in the shower, as well as dress yourself. Sometimes we have to pull our necks in and look at what we have, start at the basics. Our mood begins the minute we open our eyes in the morning.... what ever you feel is what you will be all day. When you wake up, force yourself to smile and say outloud this is going to be a good day. Eventually that gets easier, and possitive people attract possitive people ..if there are any around. Likewise misery loves company, sometimes we need to vent with empathetic hurting people. When we are depressed or sad. Anothers joyful laughter and exuberance is like salt in a wound... Eventually we need to be around happy exuberant joyful souls...... to lift our spirits. Laughter is the best medicine... watch a funny movie.. Go to a comedy club. Laugh as often as possible each day. Laughter is the best medicine. Go on laugh....feel yourself smile, your ok. Life is good. Your alive. You've been run over by the truck of life, and you are a survivor. The good thing is the more you get run over, the quicker you bounce back. You've been there done that. This stuff is actually good for us. All of it. We never know how much we can endure unless we have endured. You are stronger than you think,,, your here aren't you..... Link to post Share on other sites
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