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Old 31st January 2018, 9:33 AM   #1
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How do I know who is match?

So, after long time I m back to dating, I put a profile online, gets messages, I used to feel black color about all of that.....
now after meditation I try again,every one seems so nice, actually I feel every one is potential partner.....

How do I know which is the real match?

so far , I m answering and chatting every one....mmm....crazy.
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Old 31st January 2018, 6:46 PM   #2
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How do I know which is the real match?

so far , I m answering and chatting every one....mmm....crazy.
I have a suggestion. BUT this is ONLY good for putting a 'bunch' of people (women in my case) in an order so you have a little help deciding 'who's next'. I do NOT follow this order strictly but only use it for guidance. The value of these tools also depend on your having answered a bunch of questions about who you are and what you're looking for in a dating partner.

On POF I use UltraMatch which rank orders potential dates. You can adjust the list by age range, distance, and how long since the ladies have been online. Be warned that there is an apparent bug so you will get different lists every time you Refine the list and some highly ranked women may even drop off completely.

OKC and Match have similar tools. Each woman is assigned a compatibility percentage and the lists can be ordered by that percentage. OKC's percentage can be manipulated quite a bit by your selection of which of the HUNDREDS of questions you choose to answer.
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Old 2nd February 2018, 8:20 PM   #3
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l've known it straight away. You just like everything about someone , it smacks you in the face you can't miss it.

So from there it's just about spending time with each other and seeing how it works out and how feeling grow from there.
Hopefully that keeps flowing through into long term reality as you do.
Doesn't mean it will but it's the place to start.
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Old 2nd February 2018, 8:24 PM   #4
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If you can't tell from your communications, meet them and trust your gut reaction.

Most people are nice, but not a good match. Hold out for a good match - and be ready to break it off even after 6 months or more if they're not.
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Old 2nd February 2018, 10:26 PM   #5
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I have no idea. Please let me know if you find out. Everyone seems nice
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Old 3rd February 2018, 12:42 AM   #6
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nospam99 , yes I did those on dating site, but the questions they asked sounds silly sometimes, ......and I also tend to like a guy opposite from me, I like music and arts, but I sometimes want a guy who likes sports ....

Chilli,I v never met such a man all my life....I really admire u that u could know from the second u see someone, u get such a good six sense.

My childhood was damaged and I was abused in a way beyond imagination, I actually don't realize I still can be alive back to this level.....my former boyfriends each is a reflection repeating archtetype of the abusive figure with a delusion of romantic scene.
so now I need to meditate to a cosmic state then I start, then I see everyone is nice, every man is a male god.....I know its unrealistic and its another delusion maybe, but it gets me started....

I will try to figure out what's next....
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Old 3rd February 2018, 9:00 PM   #7
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Damn , so sorry to hear that unit, good luck with everything eh.
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