LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Transitioning > In Search Of...

Always attracted to men of power


In Search Of... Having a hard time forming friendships or finding companions, lovers, or associates? Is someone pursuing an unwelcome relationship with you? Talk about your experiences here.

Like Tree21Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 9th December 2017, 8:22 AM   #1
Established Member
 
SerCay's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Europe
Posts: 719
Always attracted to men of power

So I have a personal question...
I am gonna be vulnerable here but I feel this is the only way to get real opinions.

I am always attracted to men of power. Usually these are married and older men, who have reached a certain degree in their career.

Why do you think this is?
I do feel this is starting to hold me back in my love life and I want to work on the underlying psychological causes of it.
__________________
- ''To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance'' - Oscar Wilde
SerCay is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 3:46 PM   #2
Established Member
 
d0nnivain's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Northeastern USA
Posts: 26,327
Sounds like a "daddy issue". It also sounds like it needs meaningful therapy with a licensed professional not some arm chair wanna bes on the internet.


Best wishes.
d0nnivain is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 3:59 PM   #3
Established Member
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 14,633
You need professional advice for your issues and not some forum garb.

I would suggest you become a powerful woman and perhaps you won't want a powerful man anymore. You'll have your own power.
stillafool is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 4:08 PM   #4
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2014
Posts: 308
It doesnít sound like you need professional advice or therapy at all. Itís completely natural for a woman to be attracted to powerful men.

How you handle that attraction is another question entirely, but your post seems to center only on the narrow point of being attracted to powerful men.
Be_Strong is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 4:15 PM   #5
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 47,047
Journal Entries: 39
Power is exciting. Stimulating. Powerful people are usually popular. People like being around them. It's addictive. Seems pretty natural to me. Obviously if the attraction isn't mutual it's not going to work out but that's the case in every interaction. Sometimes they work out and other times not.
Fair likes this.
carhill is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 4:21 PM   #6
Established Member
 
d0nnivain's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Northeastern USA
Posts: 26,327
I did not suggest therapy because I think there is anything wrong with being attracted to powerful men. I have always preferred them.


I suggested therapy because you said this:
Quote:
Originally Posted by SerCay View Post
I do feel this is starting to hold me back in my love life and I want to work on the underlying psychological causes of it.
If you want to know "why", you may need more than the internet can offer.
d0nnivain is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 4:24 PM   #7
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 47,047
Journal Entries: 39
Perhaps a more pertinent question to ask is, OP, why you're not attracted to men who aren't powerful. That's a huge number, and I'll bet there are a lot of good men, attractive men, in that group. What do you think?
carhill is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 5:49 PM   #8
Established Member
 
thefooloftheyear's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 9,684
Many women are.....

I don't think it's really an issue to be overly concerned about, unless you are only pining after taken powerful men, i'd say its not really all that much different from a guy saying he likes small women with large breasts...

Find a powerful man that is available if that's what you really want...

Just out of curiosity, I would be interested to know what your race/ethnicity is...Understandable if you would like to remain private on that...I'm only curious as over the years I have found women of certain cultures/ethnicities are more apt to want a powerful guy.. Italian and Jewish women are an example...The more attractive they are the more powerful a guy they desire..

I'd say roll with it...if that's what you prefer...

TFY
__________________
"don't fear the baddest or strongest.....fear the one that never gives up"
thefooloftheyear is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 6:16 PM   #9
Established Member
 
Steve51's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2017
Location: South USA
Posts: 383
Genetically women are designed to be attracted to males with good genes. In ancient times that meant a good protector, hunter and someone who will stay in a relationship to make sure your children will live to pass on your joint gene pool. Life is all about passing on our genes. Our genes are the immortal ones that use us to transport and deliver them to a donor. All other meaninga of life is man made to make us feel better. Cut out sex and our species dies. Does not matter if you cure cancer, if you do not pass along your genes your genetic line dies with you. A genetic line that started with the first humans.

OK, now to specifics. I was considered a hot looking guy. I was a jock in school, have a genius level IQ, good sense of humor, high power and profile job which put me in the top 5% of income earners in the U.S.. These days women are not looking for hunters as there are supermarkets. The Police and Military protect them. So they look for other traits of an alpha male which is fame, power, and money. Good looks satisfy the genetic desire to seek out a healthy male. It also serves to sexually excite the woman so she will want to have frequent sex with the male.

I have attracted women all over the world in my travels. I wore custom made suites, arrived in Rolls Royce or Mercedes limos, stayed in the best hotel suites and controlled a few hundred million dollars of contracts. Money was no object when I travelled on business because I had to live the part of a successful consultant. I know how much women are attracted to me. Some are very direct like the model in town for a photoshoot who saw me on a plane and after we landed, walked up to me and asked me to spend the night with her. Had not spoken two words to her and yet she wanted me. Once on a flight a college girl told me I was very intelligent after answering some question she had about how planes fly and put a blanket over my lap and gave me an orgasm right on the plane. Had an 82 year old women hand me her hotel key. Has three husbands ask me to have sex with their wives. Had sex with all of my sister's friends and all the girlfriends of my friends in high school. Even had some of their wives hit on me. One sent her husband out for beer and told me to stay to fix her computer and as soon as her husband left she stripped naked but I told her I could not do that to a friend and ended it. Another wife started to rub me when her husband went into the bathroom. I can go on and on but women are drawn to me sexually even if they do not know much about me.

So what you are experiencing is genetic and not uncommon. You want a man whose genes will have the best chance of producing superior kids. The fact that he is married shows that he is not afraid of commitment. I will advise against a married man because 99% of the time he will use you for sex, tell you what you want to hear but if caught will stay with his wife. No future there. There are plenty of men who meet all of your criteria that are not married. My advice is to hang out where the alpha males with money hang out. Go to the clubs and bars they go to. Dress appropriately. speak well and you have a good shot. Most of the women who approached me were in expensive hotel bars, through business, in first class on airplanes and at work. I never dated a girl I met at a bar or club though. It was usually through business. My clients like Victoria's Secret and other fashion industry companies. I had sex with a legal secretary who worked for the law firm we used and others at the bars of expensive hotels. However I was married so they were just flings for me. Two wanted more and one purposely gave me an STD and the other stalked me and my wife until we moved out of State.

If I were a girl I would find a rich nice guy to fall in love with as you can love them as much as a poor guy. However, keep in mind that the type of men you are attracted to also attract a lot of other women and sooner or later they will give in to temptation. No matter how hot you are, after a year or two you will start to look regular to a guy since he is used to you and seen you without makeup. You see guys divorcing hot women all the time. I stayed married for a long time because as the song says, if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a beautiful woman your wife. My wife is pretty but not beautiful and she has been a great wife to me for 45 years and counting.
__________________
Most people rather drown in a pool of their own morality than seek the safety of a different morality.
Steve51 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 8:24 PM   #10
Established Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2016
Location: Queensland, Australia
Posts: 225
The power thing I wouldn't worry too much about, most women would like to have a partner who's capable of looking after them. I don't mean in a financial sense, (though that often comes with a powerful partner), but more someone who can lift some of life's responsibilities from your shoulders, (because life can be hard and scary sometimes, especially for a woman with no partner or a weak partner, and a limited income).

But the older or married thing....that's something else. I would take a stab in the dark and guess maybe your own father was absent from your life, or if he was in your family home he maybe wasn't a father who took any real interest in you? It's fairly common for women with an absent male parent figure to seek older men and try to win their approval, like you're forever trying to fill the void left by an inadequate father.

Lots of women who go for older men would argue with what I say, but that's mostly because they can't stand the idea that they've got Daddy Issues going on because it doesn't sit well with the self-image they have, which is usually that they're so mature, worldly, and sophisticated that guys their own age are too immature.

I've always thought that once you get over about 25, then maybe 10 years or so isn't too big a gap, but when I see a 20-something woman with a 40-something man, you know there's Daddy Issues happening on her side and emotional and social immaturity on his. It's not always the case, but it is most of the time.

Last edited by LoveShack.org Moderator; 11th December 2017 at 8:53 PM.. Reason: Paragraphs
MsJayne is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 8:28 PM   #11
Established Member
 
jay1983's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Bayou City
Posts: 3,443
Sounds completely normal to me. Powerful men have gorgeous women lining up to date them. I guess you'd better get in line.
__________________
Respect my gangsta
jay1983 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11th December 2017, 11:12 PM   #12
Member
 
Join Date: May 2017
Location: Into the great wide open
Posts: 699
Quote:
Originally Posted by d0nnivain View Post
Sounds like a "daddy issue".
sounds like "sugar daddy" issues..

And on a side note, I am attracted to chicks that look like Raquel Welch back in the 60s. I don't know why? Its so strange. Especially that cave woman leopard skin outfit thing.. grr....grrrr..
jjgitties is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 12:07 AM   #13
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2016
Posts: 136
The guy can be a total slob and have money/power and women are attracted. Lol, how backwards does that sound?
MsJayne likes this.
FastHands is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 2:29 PM   #14
Established Member
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 14,633
Quote:
Originally Posted by FastHands View Post
The guy can be a total slob and have money/power and women are attracted. Lol, how backwards does that sound?
LOL, not really, some people will put up with anything so they don't have to work.
stillafool is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th December 2017, 2:35 PM   #15
Established Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 927
Iíd like to know what the op means by Power?

Financial?
Strength?
Power means several things.
Purepony is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Physically attracted to one ethnicity, mentally attracted to another? Hopeful30 Dating 17 19th July 2015 4:53 AM
Extremely Sexually Attracted but not Physically Attracted o.0 domple Dating 31 21st October 2013 12:01 AM
Have ever became attracted to a girl that you weren't initially attracted to? garycoleman Dating 16 13th April 2012 9:27 PM
Attracted to person online/after several months find out they are not attracted to U. inhighwater Coping 6 2nd March 2006 6:28 PM
Are women really attracted to power and money ? Super89Rex Dating 87 4th February 2006 7:12 AM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 1:42 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2013 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.