King Bowls Posted July 26, 2017 Share Posted July 26, 2017 I posted about this woman a while back, but it's been revitalized since I went thought my Facebook messages this morning. First of all, this girl is extremely attractive. Blond hair, college educated, a surfer, speaks multiple languages, a perfect fit for me. About 2.5 to 3 years ago, when I was at my old college, she would help me refine essays every now and then (she helped me maybe two or three total times). But everytime she saw me in the lab, she'd always smile or say hey, for what it's worth. I added her as a friend on Facebook 3 months ago and sent a message saying "hey" and she has since not accepted the request (it's still pending). Nor has she read the message. Id love for this to work out, she is so beautiful. Should I send maybe a better message or what else could I do? Sign up for her yoga class? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 26, 2017 Share Posted July 26, 2017 You can sign up for her yoga class if you like but she may still not want to be your friend or more. If she tutored you back then & you have had limited contact (you sending the FB friend request) over the past 3 years, I personally would take her silence as rejection & not bother with her. You need to start interacting with women IRL, the ones in front of you in person. Get off your computer except for school work. It's stunting your social growth. Link to post Share on other sites
AHopelessRomantic Posted July 27, 2017 Share Posted July 27, 2017 Yeah, don't ever say "hey". I NEVER respond to those no matter who it is. Express how you missed her in the message. Message her again being more open. Don't just say "hey". Also, she may not even use Facebook much. I get on my Facebook once every few weeks. I don't check anything. Not the messages or requests. If she still actively uses Facebook, message her again, otherwise try to find her on social media that she uses. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted July 28, 2017 Author Share Posted July 28, 2017 You can sign up for her yoga class if you like but she may still not want to be your friend or more. If she tutored you back then & you have had limited contact (you sending the FB friend request) over the past 3 years, I personally would take her silence as rejection & not bother with her. You need to start interacting with women IRL, the ones in front of you in person. Get off your computer except for school work. It's stunting your social growth. One issue is, is that I talk to a few girls at school and it becomes mighty easy, because I would never want a serious relationship with them (just not attracted to them). Everytime I find the one, somehow someway it doesn't work. Mostly because I fumble the social part or go about the wrong way of trying to communicate & connect. The girls who have actually wanted to date me in the past have all been unnattractive. Maybe I'll be single the rest of my life, who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 Every girl that you post about that you have been attracted to has been some virtual on line connection. That is the part where you are messing up. Start talking to real life flesh & blood women who you are attracted to. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted July 28, 2017 Author Share Posted July 28, 2017 Every girl that you post about that you have been attracted to has been some virtual on line connection. That is the part where you are messing up. Start talking to real life flesh & blood women who you are attracted to. Well many I have posted about (with the exception of one), I have met in person at some point. And that's a good idea, but I have to find them (and even when I see them at school or in public, I have no idea what to do). The one upside of being single is that I can build wealth with no one tugging on it. On the other hand, it makes my blood boil, because it's yet another deficiency. That and every other one makes me hate myself. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 When you see an attractive woman you smile & say hi. That's it. It will either break the ice & you continue chatting or it won't & you do nothing. It's not a deficiency. Stop being so negative. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 I think your old tutor is a dead end. Pretty sure she would have said something back or added you if she had wanted to. Don't assume she didn't see it. People look at their social media. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted July 28, 2017 Author Share Posted July 28, 2017 When you see an attractive woman you smile & say hi. That's it. It will either break the ice & you continue chatting or it won't & you do nothing. It's not a deficiency. Stop being so negative. It just seems so much more difficult than that, because I see these girls it always seems like the worst time (such as when we walk by each other at school). Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted July 28, 2017 Author Share Posted July 28, 2017 I think your old tutor is a dead end. Pretty sure she would have said something back or added you if she had wanted to. Don't assume she didn't see it. People look at their social media. I guarantee though, if she saw me she would recognize me. But that means nothing. Maybe I'll have luck this semester, or maybe never. My social skills suck, I should be punished for it. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 It just seems so much more difficult than that, because I see these girls it always seems like the worst time (such as when we walk by each other at school). It's not. Just smile & say hi, especially if you see them every day. Then when you see her somewhere else it's less weird when you talk to her. You are making it more difficult then it has to be Link to post Share on other sites
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