aj_more Posted May 30, 2017 Share Posted May 30, 2017 G'day all, thought I'd share my story to see what advice you all can give me.... Known this female for 4 years as a co-worker. I'm her manager not that it matters. She has been through a few relationships and I've been supportive to the point were I was a great friend, which I was fine with. I had been in a LTR which she knew but we texted, chatted regularly. We even met up for drinks one on one a few times. 1 month ago after a few drinks, we kissed. I was on the verge of ending my relationship but didn't expect this. It felt good and we both enjoyed it, but she felt guilty as I technically was seeing someone at the same time. We chatted after and she said that it shouldn't have been a surprise but didn't want to loose me as a friend both personally and professionally (friend zone) She is very attractive, smart and ambitious etc and I'd like more, obviously. I shared with her that I've had feelings all along but held back considering I was in a relationship and she never really hinted to anything. I've now been single for over 1 month, not long, but we have continued chatting, texting etc. We are meeting for a few drinks tomorrow night and she is driving as she doesn't wanna get too drunk (think a little embarrassed from last meeting). She knows how I feel about her and that I'd like more than friends that have drinks every once in a while. But I'm not sure how to make this stand out in a social setting (not work place where we are in constant contact) without looking needy desperate etc Thoughts on how I approach drinks or just roll with it and enjoy the night? She finds me very funny and we have spoken on phone recently which has been fun, but a part of me just wants to hold her and kiss her again? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 30, 2017 Share Posted May 30, 2017 Obviously, you need to either be faithful to who you're seeing or break up with them before starting something else -- especially with an employee who will be in a position of feeling they have no options and all their eggs in one basket. It can only go south. Link to post Share on other sites
teak Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 I would just allow it to grow organically. Don't push for something that can develop pretty easily since you have established a connection and a kiss was involved AND she is open to seeing you again. Try to appreciate her as a person and the experience of things unfolding on their own. Link to post Share on other sites
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