Feel So Lost And ...

[jj_murphy27]

Ok here it goes. I'm 20 years old and have had only 1 girlfriend in my life but it didn't go anywhere so I'm still a virgin. Over the past 7 months or so, I've grown to be more confident in my self and improved my self esteem. I'm generally much happier with who I am now than who I was years back. But despite my somewhat recent assurance of confidence, relationships and women are the one issue that I still have trouble with. And I seriously don't know what I'm doing wrong. I take care of myself (I shower, shave, brush my teeth, clean ears, stay fit, etc) and I've also tried dating sites numerous time but those never work. I just feel hopeless whenever I use those. Because of all that, I also started questioning if most women thought I was ugly. I don't talk to the women at my job because they're either all in relationships or I'm just not attracted to them. I also lost my car close to a year ago and I feel like women aren't gonna want to date a guy that doesn't have a car. So sometimes I feel like why even try? This issue doesn't bother me on a daily basis. In fact, there was even a time where I went months without caring and just lived my life but today, it just bothered me real bad. Made me real depressed. Even though I'm only 20, I feel like time is running out. I know...a little ridiculous. Just need some advice.

 

I forgot to mention. Whenever my friends talk about hooking up or hanging out with some girl. I secretly get jealous. I just don't admit it. Though I'd just throw that it.

Edited February 17, 2017 by jj_murphy27
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[d0nnivain]

You are 20 & you have had 1 GF. You have the skills to get a GF.

 

 

Depending on where you live the absence of a car can be a detriment to dating. What are you doing to get new wheels?

 

 

Also what are you doing besides OLD to meet women? OLD is but one tool. Consider joining a coed sports team. Get involved in a hobby. Go speed dating. Ask all these coupled up friends if they know somebody to fix you up with.

[normal person]

And I seriously don't know what I'm doing wrong. I take care of myself (I shower, shave, brush my teeth, clean ears, stay fit, etc) and I've also tried dating sites numerous time but those never work.

 

It's great to shower, shave, brush your teeth, maintain a general standard of hygiene, etc -- but expecting women to like you because you do these things is sort of like saying "women should like me because I've never been to jail." You're not supposed to go to jail. And you're supposed to shower and shave. It doesn't make you a prime dating candidate, it just keeps you on the lowest par with the rest of society. You're not doing anything particularly impressive, you're just doing the bare minimum for consideration.

 

What I suggest is asking yourself why would a woman want to go out with you? Are you funny, exciting, charming, adventurous, mysterious, successful, etc?

At the end of the day, you have to have some "bait." If you haven't given a woman any reason to want to be with you, why are you so confused as to why they don't? Double down on your good qualities and find a way to make them more noticeable. Best of luck.