KasseyPandemonica Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 (Hi! first post c: ^w^) I am 18, with my whole life ahead of me... and I am sincerely doubting if I want to spend it with anyone except my friends. On the one hand, when I think of myself in a perfect situation in 10 years, I'm in a flat with my closest friends (we have Too Many Ferrets.) I don't have a romantic partner though... nor really anything except these QP peeps. On the other, right now, I feel terrible not having had a sexual experience. I feel all ech thinking I might never be attractive or arousing to someone; and the things I've done to try and validate that side of myself are... unrecountably difficult to talk about. I feel judgemental and... hurtful, bad, everything I hate, when I look at older persons and think of them as an easy way to get that validation; I feel just as bad when people stare or very emphatically don't or blush, because weirdly, though I want to be attractive, I also don't? I feel like I'm hurting them, or taking advantage of them, and the moment I think of doing anything to anyone I love/like/appreciate looking at I just feel horrid. I feel so confused right now, and tbh I'd just appreciate anyone's thoughts on this. Link to post Share on other sites
Nowty V Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 It is not clear to me what is upsetting/confusing you. Are you saying: a) you don't want a significant other? b) you won't encounter a person who will accept you unconditionally? c) none of the above Link to post Share on other sites
kivan3x Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 it's up to you. you don't have to pressure yourself into anything, let **** happen freely, you have all the time in the world.. If you're not sure you want to be with anyone, then don't be. Focus on yourself and your happiness, (and it's most likely then that the right person will fall into your lap, and you won't have to worry about attraction or ease.) I'm mostly alone, I've been alone for 7 odd years, before that a significant relationship, before that another drought, and so on. I'd rather be alone than be with someone who isn't just right for me, and so I patiently wait for fate to do it's thing. And if I'm meant to be alone, then so be it. actually this might be terrible advice. Taking relationship advice from someone who doesn't date is probably not a great idea. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Don't get in a hurry. Be sure you have some goals and dreams and move toward them. That's the best way to meet the right person, if there is one, anyway. Meanwhile, enjoy those silly ferrets and remember they are stinky, so don't wallow one before a date or job interview! Link to post Share on other sites
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