regdent Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 27 year old male. I am relatively new to this city I am living in. I was matched with a girl via a dating app (not Tinder). She and I are in the same field and actually study/work at the same place everyday. I usually avoid dating girls who work in my field for several reasons, but I wanted to give it a shot this time. When I first met her, I thought, "She's a bit larger (not fat) than most of the girls I used to date." However, I found her really charming in many other ways. Jane/Jill of all trades with a lovely personality and a lovely smile. I also found a little bit of comfort in the fact that she can understand what I go through in my professional world. We started flirting more and more after our first date, and we went on three dates. I stopped meeting other girls because I was getting extremely busy with work, and I didn't enjoy spending time with them as much as I did with her. Our third date was a lovely night, I thought. We had fun and got to her place at the end of the night. We got a little sexual but she refused to have a full intercourse. I thought to myself, "Okay, it will happen pretty soon! I know how much she loves me going down on her." She sent me a very sexual text two days later and invited me to her party. The party was okay overall, but I did not have the greatest interaction with her closest female friends. She still seemed into me as we would kiss and stuff. Then she started doing this "slow fade." Her messages became lukewarm over time, and she canceled on our fourth date a few days later. Didn't see that coming at all. I kept asking myself, "Where did I 'lose' her?" That week felt like absolute hell as unforeseen family and personal issues arose as well. We agreed to meet one afternoon near our workplace. She told me she did not feel a romantic connection even though she sees me as an attractive guy. I asked her what were some things she saw in me that she did not like. She talked about this once incidence where I seemed very irritated with and was not nice to a random drunk guy who hopped on the same uber as us. "It was really the personality difference that made me realize we may not be a good match." That was as much as I could get out of her. We agreed not to act like total strangers when we run into each other at our workplace. It has been a week since we had the conversation and three weeks since her party. Even after numerous dating failures and breakups, I am still having such a hard time getting over this rejection. I should not be thinking about her, but I can't help it. It is so stupid. I feel like a teenager who got crushed by a crush for the first time! I have been approaching new women and am going on a date this weekend, but I can't get her out of my mind easily. I need a quick fix... Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 There's no telling the real reason for her rejection. If you went as far as go down on her, then your treatment of a stranger is probably not at the root of it. It sounds to me like she wants to play the field a while. Like, that was her intention from the very start. But, I'm just speculating. Your ego is bruised. Give it a month. Out of sight, out of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted September 2, 2015 Share Posted September 2, 2015 She met another guy. Simple as that. Link to post Share on other sites
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