LookAtThisPOst Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 Friend of mine, male friend, early 40s...has had this woman flirting and hitting on him at these Meetups and they have each other's phone #'s so she's been known to call him up, set a date to get together and she'd flake at the last minute. During our conversation about dating and women, in regards to this woman, we had to laugh because she had recently been on a trip to Europe and quite a few photos were uploaded to her FB account. They are solo photos...of her only and someone commented about "who took the picture?" She would NEVER answer this question after the question was posed to her in the comments on FB. The man whom she was always flaking on, talked to her about the mystery photographer as to who it was taking the pictures. She says, "You shouldn't be asking me that, it's none of your business!" Keep in mind, he's revealed to her his dating life to her in the past because they've had pretty deep, personal conversations when it comes to these discussions...and all of a sudden this "mystery photographer" is some big secret. I don't know if you've ever wondered this about how people can be so secretive about who they go on an excursion with, they feel the need to leave them OUT of their photographic memories on Facebook? There's something up there...like a FWB or some sugar daddy funding her trip. Thoughts? Ever seen some kind of situation how women can be secretive about this kind of thing in a rather irrational fashion? Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 it could be she is just trying to increase her value to him by leading him to believe she was with someone. if you can't see the person she might have been with a gf, with a tour group, etc. i sometimes use a similar method (of avoiding that question) to make it appear i was with someone, even if i wasn't. it makes the guy wonder. which he is, right? a weird tactic, but a possibility here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 18, 2015 Author Share Posted June 18, 2015 it could be she is just trying to increase her value to him by leading him to believe she was with someone. if you can't see the person she might have been with a gf, with a tour group, etc. i sometimes use a similar method (of avoiding that question) to make it appear i was with someone, even if i wasn't. it makes the guy wonder. which he is, right? a weird tactic, but a possibility here. Yeah, but why would she say, "It's none of your business?" That's actually incriminating and might as well be saying that she was with a "date" or some kind of lover that's funding her travels. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 She's not dating him, so she's right, it's not his business. But if it's a fun hobby for you and your friend to speculate about other people's lives based on facebook posts, well, knock yourself out. 'Incriminating'?! ROFLMAO. I really don't understand. You have an issue with women who travel, and question their motives, now you're nitpicking facebook posts. As scorpiogirl said, it might do you good to get out once in a while. And hey, go ahead and post about it mysteriously on facebook. Just to get even with the perps. Incriminating, bwahahahaha. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Haha yeah, why even ask about this "mystery man behind the camera"? That is just a creepy thing to say. You and your "friend" could take up some hobbies. Its none of your business. It could even be a tripod or her Labrador taking the photo. Why do you care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Haha yeah, why even ask about this "mystery man behind the camera"? That is just a creepy thing to say. You and your "friend" could take up some hobbies. Its none of your business. Ever gone somewhere alone and handed your camera to a stranger and asked them to snap a pic? I did when I wandered about Toronto by myself. Hmmm. Maybe she was to embarrassed to admit she was traveling alone! Thanks for using the word creepy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 (edited) Ask her if she can recommend a good, reliable selfie stick Edited June 19, 2015 by salparadise 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jethro Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Ever gone somewhere alone and handed your camera to a stranger and asked them to snap a pic? I did when I wandered about Toronto by myself. Hmmm. Maybe she was to embarrassed to admit she was traveling alone! Thanks for using the word creepy. Do not do this if you travel to Italy or Spain or just about anywhere in Europe!! You will likely not have a camera the rest of your trip. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Ever gone somewhere alone and handed your camera to a stranger and asked them to snap a pic? I did when I wandered about Toronto by myself. Funny you mention that, and by the way, I was "out and about" and partaking in "hobbies" at the venue in the real world, when I bumped into my friend at the hobby-related event and discussed the women of Meetup and their game playing. We kind of get a kick out of women toy with us, then when we catch them in the act by the example described. Also, it wasn't like she was in a populated, tourist area where you could grab a stranger off the street and ask if you could take a photo....but more like a big field of wild flowers in the middle of no where. Also, she wouldn't say "None of your business" if she was actually handing a camera to a stranger to take the photo. He was telling me that she asked all these personal dating questions about him...it's hypocritical to say, "None of your business" if he was so willing to reveal his personal dating life with her when she was getting to know him. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Also, she wouldn't say "None of your business" if she was actually handing a camera to a stranger to take the photo. He was telling me that she asked all these personal dating questions about him...it's hypocritical to say, "None of your business" if he was so willing to reveal his personal dating life with her when she was getting to know him. You're really stretching, that's a lot of analysis. But yet I don't get how you can call it hypocritical. People have different comfort levels when revealing info about themselves. Your friend spilled his guts. Revealing your personal dating life details is a sure way to kill any possibility of romance; it's a huge no no when getting to know someone. In no way does she owe him the same, and he shouldn't expect it. 'Game playing', 'toying with', 'incriminating'. It sounds like you need to take a break from interacting with women at all. Same for your friend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Do not do this if you travel to Italy or Spain or just about anywhere in Europe!! You will likely not have a camera the rest of your trip. Thanks, Jethro. I'm not saying I would do it, just threw it out as a possibility. Bottom line, she doesn't owe OP's friend an explanation for her actions. Link to post Share on other sites
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