Targetlock Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 I have decided for the time being to take a break from actively pursuing with my OLD and other attempts at improving my love life. All it seems is cause me stress and worry and has ended up making me feel a bit jaded about it, especially OLD and at the moment i am concentrating on work and my various hobbies, seems to be working for me at the moment. see what life will bring me P.S Saturday marked 6 months of being single since my break up, i spent the day at my local hobby store, not bothered about it to be honest it feels like another life to be honest. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 OLD can be incredibility demoralizing. I can understand why you are burned out. I'm glad you're actively pursuing your hobbies. That should bring you joy. However, I am concerned you are giving up other activities to improve yourself. That may be counter productive. Link to post Share on other sites
True Gent Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 Taking a break from OLD every now and then is a good idea. I often have a month off every so often. It's a very tiring process. 6 months really isn't all that long to be single, so no need to feel like you 'should' be dating again. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 30, 2015 Share Posted March 30, 2015 I think it would be like how they say it is trying to be an actor, just rejection after rejection. It's because it's natural to be with people we have more in common with, and generally that means where we grew up or where we find our niche. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted March 30, 2015 Author Share Posted March 30, 2015 (edited) OLD can be incredibility demoralizing. I can understand why you are burned out. I'm glad you're actively pursuing your hobbies. That should bring you joy. However, I am concerned you are giving up other activities to improve yourself. That may be counter productive. I regularly go to the local gaming store for gaming nights and my local craft club for socialising and to pursue my hobbies. irregular work hours make it awkward to try other stuff at the moment. not sure what other activities you mean? True Gent: im far more used to being single anyway, that was my first real relationship. Preraph: the rejections do just burn you out after a while. i wish i had the same confidence with my hobby stuff and pastimes as i do in my love life, but then with those i get success. Edited March 30, 2015 by Targetlock Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 I feel like this sometimes and en up feeling torn. One the one hand, if you're burnt out, you're burnt out. No point beating yourself up about it. You take a brake and recharge for a while. On the other hand, I look at it as a sign I need to change my approach to dating. On the other hand, if you remove yourself from the dating pool entirely.. Do what works for you man. Best of luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted March 31, 2015 Author Share Posted March 31, 2015 im just a bit jaded about it and it leaves me stressed, so I'm just considering my options while focussing on other things. Link to post Share on other sites
sportygirl89 Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 I have been single for two years. I dated a guy for two months but never felt anything real so I do not consider that a relationship as most was online minus him meeting up. I am focusing on getting through my program, with is in health care field. I'm single since my last real ex walked out on me while I was sick. Talk to me when you have been single for TWO years. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 im just a bit jaded about it and it leaves me stressed, so I'm just considering my options while focussing on other things. And that's when you will most likely meet someone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted March 31, 2015 Author Share Posted March 31, 2015 I have been single for two years. I dated a guy for two months but never felt anything real so I do not consider that a relationship as most was online minus him meeting up. I am focusing on getting through my program, with is in health care field. I'm single since my last real ex walked out on me while I was sick. Talk to me when you have been single for TWO years. I was single for 5 years before my ex, and that was my first actual girlfriend. organisedchaos: you never know life is funny like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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