Bobbi7 Posted March 6, 2015 Share Posted March 6, 2015 I was very good friends with this co-worker, we would hang and talk outside of work. Then, this other gal that worked with us, decided to be "only" friends with my best co-worker friend and totally would give me the cold shoulder. And no matter how friendly, and how much I talked to her and how interesting I sounded, she would still reject my friendship. She would flock to my friend and talk to her, invite her to go out and call her. I don't know what her problem was. I don't get how come she never wanted to be friends with me, and it really bothered me. Like I'm not "cool" enough for her. And this happened like twice now with 2 different people! I wear nice clothes, I shower daily, I practice good hygiene and I'm well-groomed. I just think its childish how grown women act this way. Why can't we ALL be friends and get along? Link to post Share on other sites
Starship Posted March 6, 2015 Share Posted March 6, 2015 This sounds like drama in Junior high. How are we suppose to know? There are 7 billion people in the world. Most are very nice and decent. However, we are all individuals with likes and dislikes. There are dozens of people I associate with who are not 'Friends'. Why? Who knows? There are great people I don't have any desire to hang out with. Every case is unique. You may be doing nothing wrong. Those non friends may be doing nothing wrong. Not everyone clicks at some friendship or relationship level. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 6, 2015 Share Posted March 6, 2015 Is your friend by any chance a rank above the unfriendly person? Where she might just be doing it because she thinks it could benefit her? Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted March 6, 2015 Share Posted March 6, 2015 People are weird. Stop trying and ignore here... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2015 Share Posted March 6, 2015 Some people also have it in their head that being friends with a friend's friend is somehow a slight to the original friendship. If A is friends with B & B is friends with C, some people think A & C can't be friends without B there or that will somehow hurt B's feelings. It's kind of juvenile but it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted March 7, 2015 Author Share Posted March 7, 2015 In my case, it seems like they purposely want to "steal" away my best friend and toss me aside. I'm not sure why this always happens. I take it that they are somewhat jealous when they see that we are such good friends and figured it will be to their benefit to ditch me. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 She is probably socially inept. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 I have good friends who have other good friends who are not close to me and I have no issue with that. To me that is just how adult friendships roll. EG. At work I have two particularly good friends, neither of them are close to each other at all and they each have other close friends at work. If I see them with their other close friend I give them space for a chat, their friends also do the same for me. People choose their friends but it doesn't mean that everyone has to be close friends with everyone. I get along well with most folk at work to various levels but close friendships are different. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 If your original friend dumped you once she got a new friend, she's the one to blame, not the new friend. In high school, my best friend had another best friend I had zero interest in and vice versa. So that's not at all unusual. But then that best friend took up with a new girl who came to our school and they just shut everyone else out. I stopped being friends with her when she was ready to come back. I don't like that kind of fickleness and she also betrayed my confidences to this stranger. So I "broke up" with my best friend but then ended up in the same dorm in college and made up, but then some years post college, she betrayed me bigtime by sleeping with the guy I was in love with, and I booted her clear out of my life forever, and I'm glad I did. You just keep having fun with your other friends. Remember that living well is always the best revenge and best way to handle people who are snubbing you or breaking off with you. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 This is strange outside of middle school. I understand not being bestfriends with everyone your friend is friends with, I certainly have friendships where my friends might hang out with other people I don't particularly like or feel compelled to hang out with, but I'm not rude to them. That part is the weird part, this other woman ignoring you and giving you the cold shoulder. Who knows why, but I think your best co-worker friend isn't all that great of a friend to you if she sees this and doesn't ever raise the issue or try to mediate. I have various friends and sometimes when I introduce them we all become friends or I'm still the "primary friend" where they don't connect outside of when they're with me. But I have never had a case of a friend blatantly ignoring another friend of mine to talk to me and I've never done that either. That's VERY rude and unnecessary. If this "always" happens to you then I dunno because it hasn't ever happened to me much less multiple times, so maybe you attract people who are juvenile? Link to post Share on other sites
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