LookAtThisPOst Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 I'm sure you've all run into this. You wind up going to a restaurant with a serious about of white noise and obnoxious people yelling "WOOOOOOO!" every time their team scores a touchdown or just yells in general. Usually you don't know how loud a venue is until you get there or unless you eat out frequently...that you get to know the venues. I decided to go ahead and break policy with the woman about meeting her without getting her #, but she did say she prefers music at a venue...though also, to counter that, if the music is too loud...you can't get to know each other either. (Kind of like picking going to the movies.) Suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 Check out reviews of the place on line before you go. Stop by in advance if possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 (edited) Unless you are quite new to an area, surely you would know at least 5 places or so that are decent, yes? How will anyone suggest places for you when we all live in different areas? Personally I wouldn't invite anyone I didn't know well, not even a platonic acquaintance, to a place I have never tried myself unless they have a very specific request (say, vegan food or African food, or somewhere 5 minutes from their workplace). But that's just me - I'd feel quite embarrassed if I invited someone and the place turned out to be crappy. Anyway... to try and answer your question generally, from what I've found the music is usually the loudest at cheap pubs and bars, and places that morph into nightclubs and have DJs at night. The places that I've found most likely to play nice soft music with decent service and food (and charge reasonable prices) are homely little French bistros. Whenever we go to those, about 80% of the other customers tend to be couples. Might be a bit 'much' for a first date though. Food review sites are also your friend. Edited March 5, 2015 by Elswyth 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 5, 2015 Author Share Posted March 5, 2015 Thing is. The first venue I picked she said would have been a good choice. But she has this "thing" about doing social activities in a district in which she already works. Not sure if this is a red or yellow flag or not ( this hang up ). But the choices in this area when it comes to live entertainment or nightlife is slim to none. She did mention a couple of places that she was familiar with since moving here. So we'll go with that. Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 (edited) I would do something more casual and go to a place I know fairly well for a first meeting, especially if it's a first meeting and not a first date with someone you have already met. If you've already been out with her once or twice, then do the dinner or live music thing. Like you said, live music is like going to the movies for a first date, you don't talk so you can't get to know each other and it's a waste of time. I can understand her not wanting to socialize around where she works. She spends most of her time there and would like to relax somewhere else. I hate being around my work area when I'm off the clock. It's not a "hang up". It's a preference. Edited March 5, 2015 by rester 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 Depends what kind of music? I like places with music and I also like live bands but I also like quiet and cosy places with no music. I wouldn't go on a first meet to see a live band though. I wouldn't call not wanting to socialise where you work as a hang up. Sounds like she is aware that colleagues could be in the area. It's her personal life, it doesn't need to be public knowledge. At the end of the day you can just choose to back out and let her know. You don't appear happy with not having her number, nor the area she wishes to avoid, nor the venue and if it's loud. No point being the nice accommodating guy if you are not actually happy with all these things and you haven't even met yet! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 I'm sure you've all run into this. You wind up going to a restaurant with a serious about of white noise and obnoxious people yelling "WOOOOOOO!" every time their team scores a touchdown or just yells in general. That is not a restaurant. That is a sports bar, or a pub. Choose a restaurant and you won't have that problem. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Winston_Smith Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 A women who is genuinely interested in you would let you take her anywhere. Just throwing it out there, in case you dislike disappointment, rejection and your time wasted. Once, I took a girl to my favorite pub. I drank pints of beer, while she drank water all night. It turns out she doesn't drink. She never once complained and still had a great time. A few days later, I asked her to be my GF and she said yes. She was one of best I've ever had! Link to post Share on other sites
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