marieanna177 Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 I met a guy that just got out of a 7 year relationship. He took me out on dates, and we did have sex. He texted me every day and he told me he liked me a lot. One day he was acting distant and said "we need to work on your throat skills. it's called deep throat for a reason." I was hurt and stopped answering him that day and then things seemed to get a little better. Then he started acting distant again and wasn't answering me, so I went crazy and texted him 50 times. He told me he was done with me, but about a week later I reached out to him and we grabbed lunch. He told me he missed me and he paid and we didn't have sex. A few days later he told me he doesn't want a relationship, doesn't know what he wants and doesn't wanna lead me on. I asked if he had feelings for me and he said "I did have feelings, not gonna sleep with someone I don't have feelings for." About a week later I had a weak moment and asked if he wanted to have sex. Before we met up he seemed hesitant and said "I want to so badly but I don't want you throwing it in my face that all I wanted was sex from you." and then he said "I don't want you thinking this is anything more than what it is." We met up and had sex and then he asked me to go to lunch. He holds my hand and then was kissing me in the street. The next day I asked him to meet up and have sex and he said "can't have class" so I said "when can you" he said "Idk shay I'm in class can't really talk." So I asked if he wanted to still have sex with me in general, and he never answered. Later that night I apologized for even asking and he said "it's ok babe." it's been over a week and I haven't heard from him. 1. was he just using me for sex or did he have any feelings for me? 2. did I mess up and do something wrong? 3. why hasn't he been contacting me? will he ever contact me again? Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 What a disaster lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted January 25, 2015 Share Posted January 25, 2015 He's useless. He was called out on using you and couldn't handle it. Block, delete, forget. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 Do you still want this giuy for a bf even after he blew you off with the "doesn't know what he wants and doesn't wanna lead me on", soon after sex? Yes chances are he will contact you again soon I reckon, when his more favorable option is not panning out, since he knows you are good to go for some no strings attached sex. Its only just been over a week. That not a long time when its a booty call scenario. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 It's stuff like this from my youth that is the reason I am bald today. When I was decent and respectful and considerate of other people's feelings and comforts I had a life of celibacy to show for it. When I was a dick and did as I pleased and double-talked out my butt, I had women calling me up asking if I wanted to have sex and then I could just give them whatever song and dance I could dream up at the moment to keep them showing up at my house in the middle of the night. So to answer your questions - # 1. Yes. # 2. Yes # 3. 3a Because you've been calling him offering poontang. 3b he will when he is horny and hasn't heard from you first and none of his other booty call girls are available. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ready2DateAgain Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 you are his rebound,he liked you because that's what happens when you meet the 1st person you like,but once the sex deed has been perform he realizes that he's not in love with you because he just got out of a relationship.He did try to be with you but it was hard on him because he's still in love or used to someone else. You need to move on and find someone else because this relationship you guys share will go nowhere. Link to post Share on other sites
girl-in-boots Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 1. was he just using me for sex or did he have any feelings for me? 2. did I mess up and do something wrong? 3. why hasn't he been contacting me? will he ever contact me again? 1. No idea in the beginning, but then you said that he could use you for sex to which you agreed, so at that point, yes. Feelings? probably not but I would say you'd have to ask him but you'd probably hound him with text messages again. 2. Yes you hounded someone with text messages and then after agreeing you wouldn't throw it in his face hounded him again. 50 text messages is stepping into bunny boiler territory. 3. He may but it depends, as others have said, if his other booty calls don't work out and he's really bored but chances are no. If he's like most blokes I know he will be blocking your number pretty soon if he hasn't already. I don't know how old you are but you need to realise that just because someone pays for your dinner and holds your hand and even has a conversation with you it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean he has feelings or even that he likes you, it just means he's paid for dinner, held your hand and spoke to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Lokin4AReason Posted January 26, 2015 Share Posted January 26, 2015 you can do better =0/ he is just using you and messing w/ your feeling(s), sorry to say ... as mentioned by a few member(s), block delete and forget him ( it ll be better in the long run IMO ) please don't put yourself through this .... Link to post Share on other sites
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