Article: This is how we date now. OLD

[LookAtThisPOst]

With all the talks of how we should consider online dating as only a supplement our real life encounters, it seems it's drifting to more of a situation where it's likely going from a secondary method or a primary method....OR...the real world and the online world of Tinder, OKC, POF, etc are so blended, there's really no telling the 2 apart.

 

The following of this article is the first paragraph:

 

We don’t commit now. We don’t see the point. They’ve always said there are so many fish in the sea, but never before has that sea of fish been right at our fingertips on OkCupid, Tinder, Grindr, Dattch, take your pick.

We can order up a human being in the same way we can order up pad thai on Seamless. We think intimacy lies in a perfectly-executed string of emoji. We think effort is a “good morning” text.

We say romance is dead, because maybe it is, but maybe we just need to reinvent it. Maybe romance in our modern age is putting the phone down long enough to look in each other’s eyes at dinner.

Maybe romance is deleting Tinder off your phone after an incredible first date with someone. Maybe romance is still there, we just don’t know what it looks like now.

 

When we choose—if we commit—we are still one eye wandering at the options. We want the beautiful cut of filet mignon, but we’re too busy eyeing the mediocre buffet, because choice. Because choice.

 

The rest continues...

 

This Is How We Date Now | Thought Catalog

[kolleamm]

I wish I was born 50 years earlier.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I wish I was born 50 years earlier.

 

Ditto that!!

[Danda]

I think the missing factor is that even without OLD, most people don't seem to hone in on one person until they've found someone they're really into. People have way more options now, so maybe the process take longer, but I think it's still the same process.

 

I do enjoy browsing profiles from OLD, but when I enjoy talking with a guy and find him attractive, my brain just hones in hard and I forget to even check my inbox. But if I'm not feelin anyone in particular, then I find myself browsing.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I think the missing factor is that even without OLD, most people don't seem to hone in on one person until they've found someone they're really into. People have way more options now, so maybe the process take longer, but I think it's still the same process.

 

I do enjoy browsing profiles from OLD, but when I enjoy talking with a guy and find him attractive, my brain just hones in hard and I forget to even check my inbox. But if I'm not feelin anyone in particular, then I find myself browsing.

 

Yeah , I think people tend to use people as "stepping stones" to "the one." This was said to me even before the internet, but online dating just magnified this.

[Frank2thepoint]

We can order up a human being in the same way we can order up pad thai on Seamless.

 

If you are a gorgeous looking person, then yes this is true. For the non-gorgeous people, it's ordering up an escort/prostitute.

 

 

We think intimacy lies in a perfectly-executed string of emoji. We think effort is a “good morning” text.

 

I use the very basic emoji, like smiling pile of poop. Anything beyond that is too arcane for me. I wouldn't even bother to try to learn how to craft a message with just pure emoji, especially if a woman requires it for me to connect with her. In addition, I always thought a simple "Good morning" text was sweet and thoughtful, yet small and unintrusive.

 

Anyway, the article just touches upon that with modern technology, the competition of having a perfect relationship is more visible. People market their qualities, that others want through social media, just as magazines would market products. So browsing all things on the Internets, will induce the obsession to what we don't have. There's too much choice, and few have the discipline and fortitude to resist changing up for something ostensibly better.

[FitChick]

I wish I was born 50 years earlier.

Then you'd be fat and bald now, and unattractive to women.