feeling like maybe this is "as good as it gets"

[Dobie]

OK I was dumped and blindsided by my very attractive 29 year old and succsessfull fiance a few months back after a 6 year relationship . I'm 37 now and I'm not in my prime like when she met me . I've never been married and never had a relationship last longer than 6 years . I really thought we were going to get married and have a family . I put so much time and energy into my relationship to have it all blow up . I'm worried I will never meet someone cool, attractive and on the same page as me and that I'm destined to just go from girl to girl . I also don't feel like I have the energy to start again all my friends are married or and have kids and i feel like it will probably take me a year or so to meet someone I really like then at least a few years before we are ready to marry or have kids at which point I will be 40-41 ..

 

I guess what I'm feeling is that I'm past it at 37 and that my chance for marriage , kids and a relationship that lasts longer than 6 years is gone ! I feel I have blown my youth on the wrong women .

[Danda]

I'm not sure about the kids situation, since that's more a matter of science and whether or not your future lover is able to have them, but:

 

You are far from old, dude. I have worked as a CNA in multiple nursing home / assisted living facility jobs, and people in their flippin 80s are still flirting and yes, HAVING SEX. As a caregiver if you let yourself get into a big hurry and you're not careful to knock and wait for a signal to enter, you can wind up backing up frantically going, "OH MY GOSH I'm so sorry!" (Happened to me not once, but three different times.)

 

And you're not even halfway there yet.

 

Just offering some legit perspective.

[TouchedByViolet]

Ouch. Honestly, there is no age limitation on love, romance and happiness. As far as kids go well yeah generally you don't want to be raising kids when you are really old but life doesn't always give you options. Just take it a day at a time.

 

Also, as you get older you will see divorces and all sorts of relationships implode. Hell, most people stay in terrible relationships out of fear. Now that you are single the potential for someone new is there. Be open minded, take care of yourself, hope for the best plan for the worst.

[kolleamm]

Here's my advice, go out and meet as many women as possible and have as many relationships as possible. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Nobody plays fair.