LookAtThisPOst Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 There had been some cases where I had dated women, but upon going out with them, I would discover something that bothered them that would impede the flow of the relationship. Whether it be getting intimate (trust issues) to some pattern of behavior from men they got sick of and it left them wondering who ever they date in the future....well, they fear the other shoe will fall. Of course, I've known this to happen with men, too. I have a male friend that won't date a woman with the same name as his ex. Of course, that doesn't stop him from dating those that name. But I was wondering, do you try to be patient with the person? Stick it out or say 'Sorry, this is not working"? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Too many issues or too serious of an issue too soon made me throw in the towel. A good, healthy relationship does not start as a fixer-up project. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Does she like me? If the answer is "yes", I'm sticking it out. Unless she's threatened me. It's pretty rare to find someone interested, so I'm willing to stick through pretty much everything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
shet Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 In my experience "issues" are not some minor skeletons in the closet but full blown neurotic behaviour that quickly emerges, not only to me but anyone I take to meet them, who will take me aside shortly after and tell me in no uncertain terms how unfathomably, uncomfortably weird they are, to which I can't tell them they're wrong. There have been a few of these even in my denuded ****ty lonely life. They get worse over time as you gain insight into their behaviour until in the end you realise staying away from them is better for you. If you're talking about anything less than that, things that don't make them get weird in public or scare your friends, things that don't prevent them leading fairly normal looking lives, then stick it out. Everyone's got something wrong with them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 I've seen all kinds but unless we're talking about something severe like untreated mental illness or drug addiction, I'm pretty flexible and willing to stick it out if I like them. Although Shet does bring up a good point about neurotic behavior on display for all to see...that's one of those things where, while I might not break off the relationship, I would very likely change the nature of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted November 29, 2014 Author Share Posted November 29, 2014 In my experience "issues" are not some minor skeletons in the closet but full blown neurotic behaviour that quickly emerges, not only to me but anyone I take to meet them, who will take me aside shortly after and tell me in no uncertain terms how unfathomably, uncomfortably weird they are, to which I can't tell them they're wrong. There have been a few of these even in my denuded ****ty lonely life. They get worse over time as you gain insight into their behaviour until in the end you realise staying away from them is better for you. If you're talking about anything less than that, things that don't make them get weird in public or scare your friends, things that don't prevent them leading fairly normal looking lives, then stick it out. Everyone's got something wrong with them. In some profiles, I'd hear some people say, "Sure, I have issues, we all have them to a certain extent." They say it as if it's the norm and that even of the MOST normal people, still have issues. Though I have met a couple of women that have claimed to have panic attacks. Not sure if those are a big deal though. Link to post Share on other sites
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