Silence after asking out. OLD

[Cam7]

So this has been a regular occurance for me. Get talking to a girl, seems very interested. Fast and detailed responses, can get phone number but as soon as date mentioned *poof* they are totally gone. You might think that they are fake profiles but I always check to see if a person is real (put phone number into facebook search usually works). No evidence of it being fake from what I can see. One girl even deleted her OLD account after I asked her out.

 

It's slightly annoying that someone goes on a dating site, says they want to date, blows up YOUR phone with messages then does this. Wouldn't you expect the question eventually? If they close their account because thry are seeing someone why would you want to reply to me at all?

 

Considering closing mine down soon too.

[OwMyEyeball]

Welcome to the age of disposable people.

[Polak]

A lot of women doing OLD are on there solely for attention, nothing more. That's the unfortunate side of it. In order to get success you have to weed through all the fakes and flakes. Although I'm surprised you're having such an easy time getting responses in the first place!

[SycamoreCircle]

Don't delete your profile. As a very experienced OLDer, I can tell you there can be some good to come from staying in the game. Just don't invest too much in it. Only give what you get in return. All of the mishaps you've described have happened to me as well. The minute someone flakes, move on. Spend 5 minutes a day at most on it and never think too hard about what you're saying to these people. Lastly, if you do arrange dates with any of these women, make them cheap coffee dates as close to you as possible. Don't bother trying to be original or elaborate that first date, in terms of planning. Hope this helps.

[Cam7]

Ever had a great convo over the phone with a girl and have her hang up while you suggested date? That's happened twice now. What's next? Being on a great date and having her get up and walk off while I suggest a second date mid sentence?

 

People say why don't you just talk to a girl that actually wants to talk and hang with you? Well you know what, it seems like its impossible to tell the difference.

[Cam7]

Soon quick update, almost deleted profile but then said **** it and messaged four girls that seemed nice. Now I have 4 sets of numbers, 2 dates on saturday and 2 on sunday. Wtf just happened?

[Georgia2014]

So this has been a regular occurance for me. Get talking to a girl, seems very interested. Fast and detailed responses, can get phone number but as soon as date mentioned *poof* they are totally gone. You might think that they are fake profiles but I always check to see if a person is real (put phone number into facebook search usually works). No evidence of it being fake from what I can see. One girl even deleted her OLD account after I asked her out.

 

It's slightly annoying that someone goes on a dating site, says they want to date, blows up YOUR phone with messages then does this. Wouldn't you expect the question eventually? If they close their account because thry are seeing someone why would you want to reply to me at all?

 

Considering closing mine down soon too.

 

Don't close it down due to a few bad apples. I do OLD and hardly ever get responses to guys I message. If they do respond they only want to talk about themselves. Why not leave your profile up? If it's a free site it can't do any harm leaving it up. You never know one day the right girl might sign up. That's what I am hoping for on Mr. Right that one day he will sign up and message me.

[Georgia2014]

Soon quick update, almost deleted profile but then said **** it and messaged four girls that seemed nice. Now I have 4 sets of numbers, 2 dates on saturday and 2 on sunday. Wtf just happened?

 

You were talking to non interested girls before. Now you seem to find the ones that are interested. You never know what will happen until you message someone.

[FitChick]

Wait to see if they actually show up.

[BlueIris]

Ever had a great convo over the phone with a girl and have her hang up while you suggested date? That's happened twice now. What's next? Being on a great date and having her get up and walk off while I suggest a second date mid sentence?

 

People say why don't you just talk to a girl that actually wants to talk and hang with you? Well you know what, it seems like its impossible to tell the difference.

 

Congratulations on the dates this weekend!

 

I can only speculate, but if women are declining after talking with you, it could be that the conversation isn’t doing it for them. There’s a saying that men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears. While there are not black and white rules about men and women, I do think that at least most women (50%+) want conversational chemistry.

 

So the first thing I’d examine is exactly what you talked about and said, and how the conversation flowed or didn't.

[Brooke02]

Soon quick update, almost deleted profile but then said **** it and messaged four girls that seemed nice. Now I have 4 sets of numbers, 2 dates on saturday and 2 on sunday. Wtf just happened?

 

Don't get too excited, they only agreed, they haven't shown up yet.

 

I bet they flake.

[Cam7]

Don't get too excited, they only agreed, they haven't shown up yet.

 

I bet they flake.

 

Well actually I cancelled 2 of them and one cancelled on me. Doesn't matter they didn't seem that interesting anyway.

 

Still one left I guess!

[irc333]

Don't bother trying to be original or elaborate that first date, in terms of planning. Hope this helps.

 

Sure you can do that, but then you'll get cut out of the running from women who "Don't do coffee dates" and wish to have more money spent on them at a restaurant.