Im out of ideas on how to meet women

[kolleamm]

I just got out of a relationship, with someone I had met online, let's just say I tried my best but there is no chance on Earth I would have spent another day with them since she was completely obsessed with her phone and showed little to no affection towards me.

 

Anyways, throughout my whole life I have meet probably a handful of women that I was attracted to and that also liked me back IRL.

 

Online more like 1 or 2.

 

Here's my problem. I'm not sure where to go from here. I've noticed that the chances of meeting someone I find attractive, that like me back, are not married, are not moms, right age range, and don't have serious texting issues are extremely rare.

 

I do OLD (unfortunately), go to MeetUp groups, and am a full time college student, and for some reason my dating pool seems really off.

 

They are either way out of my league, not attractive to me, or have some major deal breaker attached to them such as age, married and kids etc....

 

My only requirements are that they try and keep themselves healthy or fit so I really don't think I'm being too picky.

 

Perhaps I'm just not being patient enough?

[FitChick]

You're not being patient enough. When you get to be my age, then you can complain. Dating is a numbers game. You are X number of women away from Miss Right so start dating women you aren't that crazy about. One might surprise you.

[ComingInHot]

I second FitChick. Be patient but keep your eyes open at the same time.

 

What are you ready for right now anyway? Are you hoping to meet your forever girl? Or just someone to chill and have fun with for a while?

 

Are you a part of any organized sports? Biking groups, hiking groups... yoga? *

I wish you absolutely the very best in finding your life mate! I hope you happen upon her while doing something you enjoy so you'll start off with something in common

[lyndaaxo]

I'm in the same boat. I'd suggest doing what I'm doing and taking some time out, not focussing on dating but on yourself. And the right person will come along when you're not looking for it (that's my hope anyway!)

[Arieswoman]

Im out of ideas on how to meet women

 

Some suggestions - in no particular order...and these are from UK BTW but I am sure you have similar activities in North America....

 

1. Coffee bars

2. Agricultural fairs/craft fairs/dog shows - get chatting to people as you look around.

3. Hobbies exhibitions/interest groups - does your college have societies you can join?

4. Church

5. Choir/orchestra practice

6. Charity groups

7. Animal rescue organisations - (lots of girls join these !)

8. Soup kitchens and homeless shelters - they are always looking for volunteers!

9. Shops, supermarkets, the mall.

10. Sporting events/clubs/teams

11. Singles holidays/groups

12. The park/beach.

13. Walking holidays

14. the gym

15. train/'bus/plane/tube(subway)/airport/dock/boat

 

Keep at it, it's a numbers game

 

 

 

Good luck x

[bene]

You're in college so in theory this should be a dating pool of women of your age with similar interests. There must be some events, social groups and parties in college?

 

I would also not look down on OLD if you want to meet people outside your usual circles.

 

I don't quite believe in "the right person will come along when you're not looking". Right person can come along but being open and exposed to new prospects is important.

[JuneJulySeptember]

If you are college age and do not have enough women that you are attracted to, you are too picky.

 

Most guys that age are attracted to many women. And almost everybody is single.

 

Later on in life, you might go to a party with 30 people, and literally every woman there is married.

 

If the problem is that women that you are attracted to are not attracted to you, well then that is a common problem for many if not most males. Keep trying.

[normal person]

If you're in college then you're making it harder than it has to be. There are probably at least a dozen parties every Friday and Saturday night on campus that you could meet girls at. How about the bars on campus? They're probably packed with sorority girls on the weekends too. Whenever I met new girls in college, they were either in my dorm building or it was something like this. I hate to say it (especially if you're under 21), but the alcohol makes the process go so smoothly, girls get uninhibited and want to meet guys. Get all your friends together and go have a great time. I bet something will happen without too much effort.

[Bigcitydreamer]

I would highly recommend volunteering for school events. I just volunteered for 1 hour serving smoothies at a function my school was having and so many young people came up to my booth to chat and make a good time of the event.

 

I'm extremely busy and not normally someone who always volunteers and am also single. I did this because I wasn't doing anything else and I knew my teacher would appreciate it as she was looking for quite a few volunteers. Plus I can put it on my resume now! I definitely plan on doing it again whenever the opportunity presents itself. Met some cool people in an hour! I think it's a great way to meet people while building your resume and making connections. I'm sure you could meet a girl through this route if you tried!