irc333 Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Just curious, have you ever had a mutual attraction to anyone, but knew they hung in circles that were questionable. Esp. when it comes to a certain lifestyle or questionable activity? Ever thought, "I'm really attracted, but the class of people that person hangs with is rather questionable." Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 (edited) Yep, my first love.. thinking love will show them the way to happiness. Well at least they got a good home and support for the years time, before making a move to find happiness. I considered my first two relationships, testing grounds, as to accept the person for what they are and see if they can find it within themselves. Their lifesyles did not make a difference, as I already have lived and been around both extremes and in between to know lifestyles don't make the person, it is all up to the person to be who they are. It is just as hard to make a entitled person to be humble as it is to make low self esteem person believe in one's self. They must choose, though it is rarer to see one give up security of money as I have for true love, call it the ultimate sacrafice amungst the happy life we are led to believe. Edited October 23, 2014 by sdrawkcaB ssA Link to post Share on other sites
Lernaean_Hydra Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Sure. I've had a mutual thing with this guy for a while, we've flirted, etc for months but I've never let things progress further because it could go absolutely nowhere. We're just too different. His friends are beyond questionable and his lifestyle is...well lets just say if ever he called me for a ride from the airport I wouldn't let him put his luggage in my car . But he's not the dreaded, menacing, tattooed bad boy we women are constantly accused of dropping our panties for ten times a day, he's actually a very sweet, shy and introverted guy. However he travels in a seedy circle. On the other hand, I know both sides of this coin since a lot of guys won't deal with me because I hang out with a fast crowd and am all about the party scene and have friends - like the guy mentioned above - others would find questionable, if not flat out unacceptable. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 All the time. Especially bad girls - liked em as a kid, like em now! Most of the girls I end up really liking are extremely different to me in some way, or at least they don't appear complementary to me on a surface level. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Just curious, have you ever had a mutual attraction to anyone, but knew they hung in circles that were questionable. Esp. when it comes to a certain lifestyle or questionable activity? Ever thought, "I'm really attracted, but the class of people that person hangs with is rather questionable." Yea, I've dated a woman from a much poorer neighborhood and that is far from my background. Like she's lived in the 'hood' and I grew up in a pretty damn rich place (though I am not rich myself). Some of the stories she had of her relatives and friends used to blow my mind, the way the used to live. BTW, for guys complaining that competition is too stiff for women, they might want to try that. A guy with even just a halfway decent job and no drug/alcohol problems might look decent. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 This topic reminded me of: THE COWBOY I DIDN'T SAVE I was working in my first record store, had spent the few prior years as a hippie, had spent the prior summer caretaking a ranch, was wearing cowboy boots and jeans for everyday and was just entering my glam rock phase, and was mentally still transitioning and reconciling with change. So I was probably a confusing hodgepodge of a person. I had come from the country, of course, grew up with horses and fields surrounding me, attended my share of little community rodeos, but I guess because of the times, being late sixties, early seventies, I'd pretty much shunned the cowboy community and was already completely immersed in the rock music community. There was a big divide between conservatives and hippies, and you pretty much had to take a side. But I always didn't mind getting an eyeful of a real cowboy every now and then, but never seriously considered taking one on as a boyfriend. I didn't figure they'd put up with me, and I was probably right. Still, me and a friend would sometimes go backstage (or back-corral, as it were) during the National Finals Rodeo and just, as they say, have a look-see. There was something about the swagger of a cowboy, a real cowboy, that can't be denied, just like there is men of rock. It's just a different foil. So one day I'm working in the record store, and this cute cowboy comes in. I didn't do anything particular to encourage him. I don't know why he gravitated to me. Probably the boots. They were some good-lookin' boots. Anyway, he chatted me up a little, and it did seem like there was some chemistry there. He was a gen-u-ine rodeo cowboy. Not long after, he came in one day with a girl and shopped. Not much conversation that day, just some glances. She was probably nice enough, but you know women, we can't help but be a little catty. She had "local" written all over her. I'm not sure how much time passed, probably just a week or so. He came in as soon as we opened one day, like he'd been waiting, didn't make any pretense of shopping, and came up and told me he's getting married later that day. I was, like, "Well, what are you doing here then?" He said, "I just wanted to tell you." I could tell he just very badly wanted me to stop him. He had that panicky trapped look. But I had had exactly one conversation with this cowboy, whose name I never even knew, and here he was wanting me to save him from marrying the local filly. He was just this young guy, probably was just still maturing and changing and it probably just hit him he hadn't explored much. I don't know. And why me, I don't know. I felt really bad for him, but there was just no foundation upon which I could justify pulling the reins in on him. It was a look of regret in his eyes as he left the store, and I imagine I had that same look, but what can you do when people won't stop themselves from going down the trail most traveled? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Sure I have always had a thing for the so-called bad boys & some of 'em were actual bad boys. I was always smart enough to know that while they may be very attractive & lots of fun in the short term, they were never forever material. Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 But of course. Link to post Share on other sites
leavesonautumn Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Yes and he was a ~~drummer in a band~~. Green eyes, black hair, glasses, was really a sweet guy but his friends were drug dealers, guys who had been in rehab, etc etc you name it, he was attached to it. He was 17, I was 18 so he paid me to buy him alchohol mostly and then we'd make out. Lasted a good 2 weeks. Meh, it was an experience. Have never really been interested in someone similar since. Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Yes. This is how one-night stands and FWBs happen. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Just being attracted doesn't mean you have to act on that attraction. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 Just curious, have you ever had a mutual attraction to anyone, but knew they hung in circles that were questionable. Esp. when it comes to a certain lifestyle or questionable activity? Ever thought, "I'm really attracted, but the class of people that person hangs with is rather questionable." I went on a date with a police detective once. Does that count? Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted October 26, 2014 Author Share Posted October 26, 2014 Quite a few interesting stories. Being that this a rather backwater area, I go to this one Subway the manager is rather flirty with me, but tends to run in those "hippy" circles...she was big on "Rainbow" fests in the forests, hemp fairs, etc. WAY out there in left field...and I think she may be bi-sexual from some of the stuff she said. Last night I was at a Halloween party and there were these younger, cute girls there...they were all talking about the fight's (cat fights) they've gotten into at bonfires, jacked up pick-up trucks. "I almost took that sawed off fence pull and bashed her brains in!" Droppin' the F bomb every other word. LOL They were knocked up, of course, boy ex-boyfriends (Or boyfriends) that are may or may not be in the picture. IF you wanted to see a Jerry Springer Show without waiting for tickets, hearing the stories from these women was a trip. LOL Cute...do-able? Yes....but may be unhealthy for ya. lol Link to post Share on other sites
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