soccerguy1978 Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 First of all, newbie and this is my very first post I've had a situation in which I have met some females that I have felt things for and have wanted to get to know a little bit more about them on a friendship basis and not as a more-than-friendship basis for the time being. And I have been around both of them in person. However, one of them I sent a FB friend request a couple of weeks ago and so she has not approved/declined it. The other one (who did let me friend her on FB) has not responded to my post on her wall that I put almost two weeks ago. Is this more than being overly busy? Have I already been rejected without asking for a date or admitting my attraction? Can someone enlighten me in any way. a friend said dating and the opposite sex is hard; I just did not figure it was this hard... at least for me Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 If these girls have active social lives and school or work, they may have better things to do than dwell on their FB account. Doesn't really matter why. Eventually they will see your message. I'm assuming their pages are private or you'd be able to tell if they'd been on lately. Nothing you can do but wait another couple of weeks and then that's it. No more trying to contact them. Link to post Share on other sites
Do_The_Herp Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 (edited) Online social outlets suck. Online socialization sucks.. Likewise, facebook sucks. Good for networking, but no substitute for real life interactions. If you'd like to get to know them, why not just TELL them in person when you're both joking nonchalantly, that you fancy them, find them cute or like their vibe or whatever and would like to get to know them? Ask them out for coffee or something, maybe you'll be more persuasive in person with a confident and positive demeanor. It's harder to say "no thanks" to THAT than it is to never accept some silly online friend request.. Then if they'd never considered you, they will. They're basically being asked to. Nothing wrong with that, some girls wait for a guy to make a move, some probably never even consider a guy in that way even if he's attractive, UNLESS he has the balls to make a move. And if they can't see you *that* way, then you'll have your answer, no subtle rejection or wishy-washiness and no time or tears lost. Edited July 30, 2014 by Do_The_Herp 1 Link to post Share on other sites
melodicintention Posted July 30, 2014 Share Posted July 30, 2014 The real world happens in the real world. Facebook is so out, why rely on a social network for clues? Call the girl. Go to her. If you have social anxiety work on that first before trying to use a website to judge if a girl likes you. If you'd friended me you'd be waiting a real long time, that's because I hardly get on the website and like to meet guys at the beach, at live music shows, at the grocery store...you know, like in real life. I wouldn't let a guy I didn't know and yet was interested in dating on my facebook anyways until we had been dating for a long time. Too many misperceptions arise when the person doens't know you and see your pics and posts. This is kind of a dating rule for girls anymore. Haven't you seen the rates for divorce caused by social networking? If she's a worthwhile girl, she probably has more going on than worrying about Facebook, or she doens't want you to see her FB till you get to know her. Just go find her and spark up some convo! You can do it, yes you can:cool: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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