Letter from love you havent met yet

[SadNLonley]

Just saw this on Huffington Post: Love it!!!

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Future Love of My Life:

I know. I should have written before. Forgive me. But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn't exist. But I do. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four-leaf clovers, I'm close. I'm around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger. I made eyes at you once on the subway. I saw you across the room at a party. I swiped you right on Tinder. But it's not our time yet. And I know you're wondering why.

It's really not fair that you've had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for 'meh' relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night. I'm so sorry, my love. You deserve an explanation. So, here it goes. It's taken me a long time to even admit this to myself much less to you, so please know that everything I've written here is true.

The reasons we haven't met yet, in no particular order:

1. I haven't thrown out the list of things I think you should be.

2. I'm with the wrong person right now.

3. I'm not ready to be loved unconditionally.

4. Since my life isn't together, I think you'll reject me.

5. I still believe that drama is a show of love.

6. I've been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart.

7. I need to date more to understand what I do and don't like.

8. I won't be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass.

9. I'm too focused on my own needs.

10. I don't know how to create the feeling of home that lives in my heart.

Clearly, I'm not my best self yet. Or even myself -- I'm still figuring out who that is. I'm pretty sure even if we did meet, you wouldn't like me all that much right now. It's entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons.

Be patient with me, darling heart. Know that I'm working my way toward you. So don't spend any more time thinking about where I am or am not. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.

I know it's taking longer than you'd like. It's a hell of a lot slower than I could have ever imagined. But I'm here. This is me talking to you. And I'm not going anywhere.

Don't give up on me.

Yours, in perpetuity,

The Love You Haven't Met Yet

[d0nnivain]

I read something like this before. It was the idea that if you write to the love of your life, even not knowing who that person is yet, it can help to make them appear. It's a specific off shoot of the Power of Positive Thinking, not a fairy godmother or magic wand.

 

 

I actually did this. I wrote about a half dozen letters to my husband & that is how I addressed them, to My Darling Husband. Each letter was dated. Some were longer than others. They talked about how connected we are & how much fun we would have together. The were filled with my hopes & dreams for the future.

 

 

I put them all in a box. A few weeks before our wedding, I pulled them out & read them. I cried when I realized that many of them were spot on. My dreams were coming true.

 

 

I gave them all to my husband when we got home from our Honeymoon. He was awed at how accurate some of them were & he doesn't believe in this stuff.

[SadNLonley]

Really? I love that. How very cool to see how much was spot on. I have heard about writing letters and putting them away to find later how much of what was written had came true.

 

may have to try it.

[kodakgirl]

That got me all teary-eyed-- even more so after reading your story, donnivan! I've heard of doing that kind of thing too, writing letters to the partner you haven't met yet. I think it's sweet. For most of us that person IS out there, right now, living their own life. Sometimes I think about that. I have an amazing view of the city I live in from my window and I look out and think, you're out there, taking the subway, enjoying the sunshine, reading on the sofa, maybe even thinking wistfully about the girl you'd like to meet. You exist out there and one day we're going to meet. I feel it is important to believe in that.

[SadNLonley]

After heartache, its nice to see something like this. Something to believe in. Im really trying to believe that everything happens for a reason and leads you up to something special.

 

That something to me is true love. Something that is willing to be worked for. Not just thrown away so easily.

[AnthonyLorenzo]

Dear Future Love of My Life:

I know. I should have written before. Forgive me. But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn't exist. But I do. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four-leaf clovers, I'm close. I'm around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger. I made eyes at you once on the subway. I saw you across the room at a party. I swiped you right on Tinder. But it's not our time yet. And I know you're wondering why.

It's really not fair that you've had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for 'meh' relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night. I'm so sorry, my love. You deserve an explanation. So, here it goes. It's taken me a long time to even admit this to myself much less to you, so please know that everything I've written here is true.

The reasons we haven't met yet, in no particular order:

1. I haven't thrown out the list of things I think you should be.

2. I'm with the wrong person right now.

3. I'm not ready to be loved unconditionally.

4. Since my life isn't together, I think you'll reject me.

5. I still believe that drama is a show of love.

6. I've been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart.

7. I need to date more to understand what I do and don't like.

8. I won't be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass.

9. I'm too focused on my own needs.

10. I don't know how to create the feeling of home that lives in my heart.

Clearly, I'm not my best self yet. Or even myself -- I'm still figuring out who that is. I'm pretty sure even if we did meet, you wouldn't like me all that much right now. It's entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons.

Be patient with me, darling heart. Know that I'm working my way toward you. So don't spend any more time thinking about where I am or am not. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.

I know it's taking longer than you'd like. It's a hell of a lot slower than I could have ever imagined. But I'm here. This is me talking to you. And I'm not going anywhere.

Don't give up on me.

Yours, in perpetuity,

The Love You Haven't Met Yet

 

Thank you for that. You just made my day!!

[Teraskas]

Now I'm not a guy who gets emotional easily, but I just couldn't control my tears when I saw this.

 

In related news, I have been doing similar things such as writing letters, poems, etc. and putting these in a bundle...but sometimes it's just SO hard to stay positive and hoping that one day these things will come true.

Even though I'm only 22, many people (friends included) have claimed that I am much wiser than my age indicates.

They say that I'll have enough time to meet someone, but at times it just feels futile. I certainly hope that my 'luck with women' will stay this way until I'm in my 30s or so. :/

[Targetlock]

Teraskas: I have the same problem, a lack of success causes my poor confidence but you need confidence to have luck with women so its like some kind of vicious circle and it gets harder but the hopeless romantic in me will never let me give up.

And yes this is a really sweet idea and I would be really touched if that happened to me not sure if I would do it myself though i do rather like the idea.

[Teraskas]

Now I'm not a guy who gets emotional easily, but I just couldn't control my tears when I saw this.

 

In related news, I have been doing similar things such as writing letters, poems, etc. and putting these in a bundle...but sometimes it's just SO hard to stay positive and hoping that one day these things will come true.

Even though I'm only 22, many people (friends included) have claimed that I am much wiser than my age indicates.

They say that I'll have enough time to meet someone, but at times it just feels futile. I certainly hope that my 'luck with women' will stay this way until I'm in my 30s or so. :/

 

Oops, it should've been "I certainly hope that my luck with women will NOT stay this was until I'm in my 30s or so".

I apologise folks, it's late and I couldn't correct it anymore lols. ^^

[Targetlock]

I know what you meant, otherwise you would't be on here would you?