irc333 Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 I don't know if it's me, are too many selfies a turn off? I saw a picture of a woman who had taken probably 7 selfies in one profile. I think I don't care for them because: 1. They are only arms length away 2. They only show the face 3. Sometimes always taken from above the head Anyone concur? Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 I agree... IMO women who plaster their profiles with selfies probably have an ego problem. I don't know what's more of a turn-off, selfies or group nightclub pics. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 Id rather see one selfie and a body pic versus a string of selfies from different angles. It happens on FB too. Why do you have a WHOLE album of pictures of your head?????? Dumb. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Aquanut Posted January 25, 2014 Share Posted January 25, 2014 Better one current selfie than a dozen 5 year old pics showing her and friends out clubbing and having to guess which one is her. Too many selfies tell me: 1. Either not many friends, or 2. She's not letting her friends help her with OLD. Why not ask your friend to snap a few shots of you for your profile? Ideally I want to see at least one face shot and one full body shot. Some candid shots of her having fun doing some activities she enjoys would be nice. Shots with other guys need a caption. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 27, 2014 Share Posted January 27, 2014 I currently have 7 pics up, and 3 of them are selfies. But you wouldn't be able to tell that if you saw them. The trouble is that most people are TERRIBLE at taking selfies. They hold the camera/phone too close or too far away, they get their arm in shot, they take them in mirrors, they don't think about composition or lighting, etc. You can get some great selfies if you just follow the normal rules of photo taking. But people don't, they put up the most terrible pics, and yeah it's a turn-off for me. If they can't take 2 minutes to actually check that the photo they're uploading is a GOOD photo, then what does that say about them? Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted January 27, 2014 Share Posted January 27, 2014 Too many selfies tell me: 1. Either not many friends I think I might assume this as well. People tend to say I like outdoors/doing xyz/ going xyz - but if all there pictures consisted of them in front of there bathroom mirror I wouldn't buy it. "photo or it didn't happen" - right? I'd always be more drawn to the girl with pictures of her doing loads of cool stuff than the one who maybe looks more camera ready in her pictures but there all selfies. Plus selfies can be dead deceptive - I barely recognise some people im facebook friends with in the selfies they put on. Link to post Share on other sites
JourneyLady Posted January 27, 2014 Share Posted January 27, 2014 I think I might assume this as well. People tend to say I like outdoors/doing xyz/ going xyz - but if all there pictures consisted of them in front of there bathroom mirror I wouldn't buy it. "photo or it didn't happen" - right? I'd always be more drawn to the girl with pictures of her doing loads of cool stuff than the one who maybe looks more camera ready in her pictures but there all selfies. Plus selfies can be dead deceptive - I barely recognise some people im facebook friends with in the selfies they put on. Except it's hard to take pictures of your self when you're actually DOING the cool stuff. Some examples... River rafting - what woman looks great doing that, when wearing a helmet and hair flying all over the place? (Not to mention the weird expressions on her face!) Driving - you're taking photos of the scenery, not yourself driving the car. Caving - you're in the dark, silly! (And it's not a safe place to take cameras, generally - too much sand and grit.) People don't generally take photos of themselves standing around in movie theaters or knitting. I can show people examples of cool stuff I have *made*, but then there would be complaints that they aren't photos of myself. lol! That said, the "cool stuff" is usually done with a partner, in which case selfies aren't needed, because you're not single. I have photos of me doing cool stuff but they are from several years ago when I had a fun partner. Or from before that, when I was married. Those are OLD photos. The cool stuff I'm doing currently (design and poetry) are on the computer and there's no taking photos of that. Gosh you people are just so... critical. Can't win - always doing something "not quite right". Being that critical, I imagine few of you would make good partners overall. Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted January 27, 2014 Share Posted January 27, 2014 Except it's hard to take pictures of your self when you're actually DOING the cool stuff. Some examples... River rafting - what woman looks great doing that, when wearing a helmet and hair flying all over the place? (Not to mention the weird expressions on her face!) Driving - you're taking photos of the scenery, not yourself driving the car. Caving - you're in the dark, silly! (And it's not a safe place to take cameras, generally - too much sand and grit.) True, though personally I really wouldn't be that bothered about if a girls hairs out of place while river rafting or whatever. But whatever, I think your taking it to literally - I just prefer photos of people outside, somewhere nice, taken from a standard photo taken distance than I do indoor pictures, particularly the trend I see on facebook for taking photos of yourself in your bathroom mirror - I just don't get that. I can show people examples of cool stuff I have *made*, but then there would be complaints that they aren't photos of myself. lol! You don't have to do anything, its your choice what you want to put on your profile. But if that's what you wanted to do then you could be in the picture as well, problem solved That said, the "cool stuff" is usually done with a partner, in which case selfies aren't needed, because you're not single. I have photos of me doing cool stuff but they are from several years ago when I had a fun partner. Or from before that, when I was married. Those are OLD photos. The cool stuff I'm doing currently (design and poetry) are on the computer and there's no taking photos of that. Not necessarily, yeah I do stuff with my girlfriend, but stuff like football, boxing, MTB, paintball, I do that stuff with my buddies. But whatever that's not the point, you should put on whatever photos you feel comfortable representing you. It depends on what your into and who you want to attract - i'm very outdoorsy, I'd want a girl who feels the same way ands up for some high adrenaline activities, so I would be looking to see someone who represents that in the profile. Obviously if the idea isn't to false represent yourself, theres no point of photos showing you outside a skydive centre if you hate skydiving - because clearly that'll attract the wrong kind of person. The question asked my personal feelings, what I felt about selfies - I answered, how I would react to them - I didn't tell you or anyone else what to put on your profile. Gosh you people are just so... critical. Can't win - always doing something "not quite right". Being that critical, I imagine few of you would make good partners overall. I'm happy with my girlfriend, ta! Link to post Share on other sites
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