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Old 11th February 2004, 2:13 PM   #16
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some new info you perhaps havent' considered

Do you know how many children are kidnapped and forced to fight for African warlords for diamonds each year?
How many people each year are murdered so that you can have a sparkly piece of compressed charcoal on your finger?

Do you know how many wars are financed by those diamonds?
How many hundreds of millions of dollars go to international terrorist orginizations through the use of these blood diamonds?

The next time you look at that ring on your finger I want you to think about how many lives your fiancee saved by refusing to bow down to the international diamond syndicate.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/business/3133108.stm

http://www.amnestyusa.org/diamonds/

http://observer.guardian.co.uk/inter...815450,00.html

http://www.cnn.com/2000/WORLD/europe...ess/index.html

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Old 22nd March 2004, 11:36 AM   #17
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diamonds and mossinite

I understand you want a big ring.. but you did tell him no loans, and like you even said he said he'd upgrade. One thing you do need to learn about men is that sometimes saying nothing is best.You should have thought of the effort he put into it and just have smiled.. he didn't lie if he told you it wasn't a real diamond..
he probably was so excited about how he thought it passed for one he let you think it for a day then told you the next day thinking you'd be blown away with the money he saved on a mossinite and how it looked so much like a real one.
My husband and I are upgrading my real .25 ct diamond after 9 years of marriage
he told me I could use our taxreturn to pick any ring out I wanted.. I got on ebay with him and bought a beautiful mossinite 1 ct ring for $350.00 I didn't even put a
dent in the taxreturn.. I love my jewelry too but I just couldn't see blowing all that money on myself on a 2,000 natural diamond that someone might rob me for on the street or that I'd have to buy insurance for? and if a prug broke I'd lose the stone. Seemed to be a waste of money too me. Plus mossinite is so close to the real thing even jewelry experts have trouble telling the difference.. So much they now have mossinite detectors. Your and him are the only ones who know unless you told everyone you know how cheap you think he is. I think he's smart and diamonds are a waste of money you can't take them with you when you die honey.
and for 2,000 a natural diamond better have a built in tv and cd player or else it's just a rock somebody found in a cave somewhere.. wait it is...
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Old 22nd March 2004, 5:19 PM   #18
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looser!

Gold digger! lets see, I believe I posted a thread about this. Ah yes it was called "What kind of car do you drive?"
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Old 22nd March 2004, 5:44 PM   #19
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I'm not going to attack you for being disappointed. If you are....you are.

All you can do is sit down and talk with him honestly. Make a decision as a couple what you can afford and what is the best way to shuffle the finances so you both will be happy. If it's worth it to both of you to make the financial investment by taking a loan, then do so.

Good Luck to both of you.....I hope you find a solution which makes you both happy.
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Old 22nd March 2004, 6:10 PM   #20
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Just noticed how old this thing was. Guess it got recylced. I wonder if she ever got her ring???? HAHA!
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Old 23rd March 2004, 9:39 AM   #21
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I'm wondering if she did get another ring or if she saw anyones point in this room?
Sometimes people think they want others opinions but what they really want is someone to agree with them and all it takes is 1 person to a 100 that don't...

I guess what I'm trying to say is people are gonna do whatever they want anyway wheather they know it or not.

So anyone else in here have a mossinite ring? I'm getting one in the mail and wondering what another owner thinks of the stone. thanks. kelly26
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Old 2nd April 2004, 12:30 AM   #22
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another perspective on engagment rings. i would love a huge shiny rock of carbon on my finger. thats my materalistic side speaking.
on the other hand...i am disturbed by the blood shed over this "rare"(not) material. I was at first saddened when my current bf said he would never buy a diamond, but, i more admire his compassion over this issue, which i have always shared.
i would love to have a unique sapphire or an antique stone reset.
i have a wonderful inherited fake thats awesome.
the only admirable thing about a diamond ring is...a long time ago, it was a security for the wife to have a diamond, because if something happened to the husband,(the family provider), the wife, could sell it to take care of the family.
an insurance policy before there was insurance.

besides what do you think mobrew23 would have prefered, a large fake or a tiny real one. i suspect her bf knew what was appropriate for her. If i were a man and my gf bitched about the ring, i would give her 200 dollars and tell he to have fun at walmart. this is really pathetic.

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Old 4th April 2004, 2:07 PM   #23
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got my moissanite ring

I bought a moissanite 1ct ring from this seller on ebay he's awesome
and it looks just like a diamond I paid 400.00 including shipping and free sizing.
And everyone I've showed it to says "oh my god what a beautiful diamond."
The guy was so nice and overnighted the ring to me free because I was so excited about it..I will never again buy a diamond and pay all that money out when I can buy a moissanite for a 10th of the price of a diamond and get a huge stone that noone can tell the difference between. I also have a warranty on the ring so if anything happens that stones replaceable IM SO HAPPY I'll see if the guy minds if I post his ebay user name on this sight and if not I'll come back and post for all of you to see the stuff he sells for yourself. -kelly26
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Old 7th April 2004, 6:10 PM   #24
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Ugh. Don't get me started on diamonds and DeBeers. So overrated. Everytime I seen an ad of theirs I get annoyed. At least DeBeers is running scared now with a few companies coming out with 100% natural diamonds yet they are man/machine made. Next step in computing tech is going to use diamonds..so they'll fund their research/tech with stones they make. Perfect, colored stones at $5 a carat.


A question tho, as a guy who isn't up on rings etc. . Which do you wear all the time? I thought it was the wedding ring that was worn all the time and not the engagement ring?
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Old 21st April 2004, 3:01 PM   #25
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Re: yuck!

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you are really materialistic. i agree with y'all, in the US it's a competition. i actually got to pick my engagement ring and you know what i picked? A .4 carat solitaire. yup, you saw right, not 2 carats. not 1 carat. Not even half a carat!! .4 carats - and my fiance didn't even have a budget! sky was the limit, he said. in America, it's DISGUSTING how women HAVE to have that diamond and be like J.-HO or else the world will end. just wake up, realize the guy loves you (after all, he DID cry over you - if that doesn't tell you he loves you, you don't deserve him). give him a huge hug and tell him what a materialistic b_tch you were acting like, and if he believes you're TRULY sorry, he might take you back if you're lucky!
You are that 6ct diamond, honey. You're an ambassador for women all over.
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At least DeBeers is running scared now with a few companies coming out with 100% natural diamonds yet they are man/machine made.
DeBeers is running scared from no one. If pure economic cartelism fails, good old fashioned 'mysterious' murder won't--they've done it before, and they'll do it again.
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Old 21st April 2004, 10:06 PM   #27
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maybe i misread the thread, but i thought he took a loan to get you the first ring, should you appreciate that. how much more in debt or rather how much debt do you want him to get into? its the thought thats important. i still have a 25 cents ring someone gave me and that was out of love. the smaller things in life is the most important and worth treasuring cuz usually that's the things that come from your heart.
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Old 22nd April 2004, 6:17 PM   #28
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DeBeers is running scared from no one. If pure economic cartelism fails, good old fashioned 'mysterious' murder won't--they've done it before, and they'll do it again.
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Sadly, you may be right. I'd like to be a bit more optimistic about the whole thing though. They are working hard on making machines and distro'ing them to jewelers to detect the new man-made stuff.
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A question tho, as a guy who isn't up on rings etc. . Which do you wear all the time? I thought it was the wedding ring that was worn all the time and not the engagement ring?
It's entirely up to the woman/couple, but most women I know wear both. I just got engaged, and I fully intend to wear both.
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Old 5th May 2004, 10:27 PM   #30
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My fiance bought me a 3/4 carat moissanite ring and I LOVE it. It was at my insistance that he bought it. 2300$ for a "real" diamond or 230$ for a lab created one? We shopped around, considered all, but in the end the light dispersion and fire that the moisannite has is far greater than most natural diamonds. And the jeweller appraised it at 3200$ when we had it resized elsewhere!
How much a person spends on a ring or if it's real or not has nothing to do with how much they love you. He DOES want to marry you, after all. You said yourself that was the setting you wanted. And I'd be willing to wager that before you found out the center stone was lab created you didn't even notice the difference. I think its all in your pretty little materialistic self absorbed head.
You should be greatful that you have a man that bought you the best quality ring he could afford. There's two 'real' diamonds on the side. And I can't believe you COMPLAINED about it.
God forbid he registers for stainless steel cutlery rather than silver. In short, there's more important things to worry about than whether or not that rock on your hand is real. I'm tired of this whole "but a diamond is forever" crap...styrofoam lasts a damn long time too.
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