[beccak]

my boyfriend is in london and i live in manchester we have been together for a year. at the start of our relationship he told me that he would be moving to london. i wasnt sure that we should carry on seeing eachother but he said that it would be ok as we could see eachother at the weekends. he has been there for 7 weeks and i have only seen him 3 times i got really upset that he has not made the effort to see me and reminded him that he said that we would see eachother at the weekends and he replied with that he did not mean every weekend.

he barely makes the effort to keep in touch with me i will send him a text and he wont reply for days if it was up to him i doubt that we would speak from one week to the next. i dont fell that it is asking for too much to get one text a day when i dont see him. i have explained several times that his behaviour is hurting me and he still wont make the effort

the other main issue also is that he still doesn't love me i have said it to him this week and he didnt say it back. i cannot be any more thoughtful, caring or nicer to him i always do little romantic things for him and he does nothing to show he cares i feel like it is a constant battle for him to fall in love with me. its making me really unhappy any advice?

[GreenEyedLady]

You state that you are really unhappy...it seems like you two should take a break or at least agree to see other people...it doesn't sound like he wants the same things you do...(perhaps money for traveling is an issue?)...The best thing is to communicate with him and go from there...hope that helps...

[Jane Doe]

It doesn't sound to me like there's anything positive in this relationship whatsoever. You're doing 100% of the giving and he's doing all the taking. Stop tormenting yourself and let this guy go. I don't see where you'd be losing much of anything.

[FlyingHigh]

Originally Posted by Jane Doe

It doesn't sound to me like there's anything positive in this relationship whatsoever. You're doing 100% of the giving and he's doing all the taking. Stop tormenting yourself and let this guy go. I don't see where you'd be losing much of anything.

I second this motion.

He's not worth it. Chances are there is someone else. There is someone for you who will appreciate what you have to offer and who will return the same love.

You have to DECIDE for yourself that YOU deserve better. Until then, you will have difficulty overcoming him.

Get busy!! Go out!! Don't call/text/email him anymore. If you feel in the dumps sometimes, keep moving. Why? Because....

You can't knock down a moving target!

[once removed]

It is better to be alone than to be in a relationship and lonely trust me I did it for way to many years