[kaeferman]

Broke up with my GF about 2 weeks ago for the 4th time in a 3 year relationship. Basically I found out she had cheated on me with one of her little friends so I went to her place and told her I wouldnt go on with this. She agreed with me (no begging for me to stay, crying, etc) and I went away, very angry. I was pissed off because she showed no remorse for what she had done. She didnt call or even email me after that saying she was sorry. Nothing.
Yesterday I found one of her best friends at a party and she told me my ex-gf is feeling really bad and that she misses me so much. She says she wants to call me but wont do it because she is so proud. OK, but after that she told me she was actually waiting me to call her so that I could learn that what I was doing was wrong. Huh?? What is this? SHE cheated on me and now she is waiting me to call her??? Is this girl so crazy? Do these people really exist? Please help me understand this because I really cant do it...
I really want to be with her I miss her a lot but no - it cant be this way! I am expecting the same thing from her - to call me and try to work things out with me and accept she was wrong.
How do you deal with this kind of people? Is there any way for me to show her she is the one that is wrong here? Man, I miss her so much but I dont really want to be with someone with such a personality!!
Please help...

[swirly27]

If she needs help figuring out that SHE is the one in the wrong here, then you NEED to ask yourself if you really want to be with someone so selfish, because there is NO way she doesn't know she was wrong here. That goes for her friend as well. How old are these girls? Also, are you 100% sure she cheated, like there is no possible way you heard wrong?? That would be the only way I could see her being defensive, is if you heard a rumor and broke up with her w/o hearing her out. Otherwise, its ridiculous that you did anything wrong and should call her now.