Found a home made sex video in my mans drawer...

ace1111

Hi there...

can anyone offer advice...
Brief history is that ive moved in with my boyf for 4 months. He has been with his now ex wife for 15 years...he is now properley single and thats why i have moved in, we have been together over a year.

ive just been cleaning the bedroom, and opened his bedside cabinet...i found a camcorder tape with their names and a little smily face (this is the cabinet that he keeps all him monemtoes in...ie stuff of us, photos, cards, teddy bears etc. ...i watched it - its a sex video of him and his now ex wife, must be from about two years ago.

i phoned him and asked what the tape was. he did tell me, and told me to bin it, saying it was a rude tape of the past and he didnt realise it was in there, as he hasnt been in that drawer for over a year. im sure last time i went in there to put something in it wasnt there, as i would have seen it - i KNOW i would have remembered.

he was honest about the tape. but i feel sick. im living in their marital home, so now all i have is this vivid image of them at it in the bed that i now sleep in. we had problems at the start as it was her who ended the marriage and he wanted to try, so in the beginning i was very insecure that he was really happy with me, as i was not her, but we have worked successfully on that stuff...up to now!

i know i prob shouldnt have watched it, but he shouldnt have kept it there...
i cant help thinkinh im now back to square one, and at the mo i just get out of this house and run away. he said can we talk when he gets home...

any advice? thanks so much!