personally i have never truly been in a real relationship, if anything this would be my first.
Recently me and my ex somewhat got back together. Im not seeing anyone else and from the looks of it neither is she.
not that this is a bad thing, however i notice things are different from before we broke up. Anyway the fall semester started again, im very busy with my senior year and work. And i know she's also busy with school. This could all be a reason why we may not have as much time to talk/hangout now compared to the past...but thats probably an excuse, there is always time to talk.
We were together about 4 months before breaking up. During that time she'd be online pretty constantly and texting me almost everyday asking me how my day was, and i would be happy to hear from her everytime. I have to admit she was a little clingy then. Our interest in each other was pretty high.
As for now... I can tell she's still likes me, she picks up the phone when i call and is willing to talk, etc. But it appears the only time either of us are interested in talking to each other or call for that matter is for the purpose of meeting up. Even so it may not be easy, either ill be busy and unable to meet or she will be. However she lays out her schedule to me of when she around campus, when she has classes and stuff...i do too somewhat. However either of us will try to make time on weekends if possible.
Maybe our routines are redudant to the point we dont need to ask what each other is up to or what we're doing in school, saying it once is enough already that there shouldnt need to be repeats.
It's hard to say really, at the same time i care and dont care about her and whats going on. But all i know is by the end of the day im thinking of her and the same for her likely. However i dont care enough to call, and neither does she.
What are the exact stages of a successful or at least good going relationship..? cause im not even sure where we're going with this.
Is what's happening to us normal?..or at least someone explain whats going on.
Not everyone needs daily contact, and yes, busy lives have a lot to do with that. My SO and I don't talk on the phone except to make plans to get together, and we don't see each other much more than once a week. However, our time together - no matter what we do, even if it's just to stay at home with wine and conversation - is fantastic, warm, affectionate and Hot!
Some people need a lot more calls and IM's and text messages and whatnot, and some people feel the need to see each other many times a week.
If it's working for you, I wouldn't worry about it. Have fun and enjoy!
Everywhere sex: You and your partner just can't get enough of each other, and you'll find anyplace, anytime, to get it on;
Household sex: You and your partner still have the hots for each other, but you've given up bonking in parks and cars and whatnot, and do your business at home;
Bedroom sex: You've done the stairs, the kitchen table, the basement, you've christened every room in the house. Now you and your partner simply stick to the bedroom;
Hallway sex: You and your partner see each other at the opposite ends of a hallway in the house and tell each other to f*ck off.
__________________ Warning: Keep out of reach of children. Do not operate heavy machinery while taking this advice.
Not everyone needs daily contact, and yes, busy lives have a lot to do with that. My SO and I don't talk on the phone except to make plans to get together, and we don't see each other much more than once a week. However, our time together - no matter what we do, even if it's just to stay at home with wine and conversation - is fantastic, warm, affectionate and Hot!
Some people need a lot more calls and IM's and text messages and whatnot, and some people feel the need to see each other many times a week.
If it's working for you, I wouldn't worry about it. Have fun and enjoy!
Thanks. I guess im a little skeptical because we havent necessarily labeled what we are, nor have either of us brought up the past or even talked about whats going on...almost like nothing had happened and we're back where we left off. Although this is all new to me, it feels like im in limbo between being friends and more. I know relationships take time, investment, and room (which includes have each other's personal space) to evolve....but as i said it feels like a limbo. For all i know she could be out to clubs/meeting guys without the slightest clue..kind of like a 'taking a break' thing/open relationship.
Thanks. I guess im a little skeptical because we havent necessarily labeled what we are, nor have either of us brought up the past or even talked about whats going on...almost like nothing had happened and we're back where we left off. Although this is all new to me, it feels like im in limbo between being friends and more. I know relationships take time, investment, and room (which includes have each other's personal space) to evolve....but as i said it feels like a limbo. For all i know she could be out to clubs/meeting guys without the slightest clue..kind of like a 'taking a break' thing/open relationship.
Then you should talk to her and get things out in the open so you both know what you're doing and there's no misunderstanding.
Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.
Linear Mode
