[Just2Cute1972]

My ex and i broke up 3 weeks ago - the break up thread is here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=891540&posted=1#post891540

Well it has gone from now contacting me solely about the kids to small talk. We texted each other for like 2 hours Friday nite and then yesterday for 3 hours. It seems to start off about the kids because he insists he wants to keep seeing them (he is not the father) but then they turn to other things for example, yesterday he told me about the new tattoo he he is getting, then told me about the money he had saved up, then told me about him purchasing a car soon...just his goals basically. Well he sorta brought us up yesterday and i asked him since it came up why exactly did he stop loving me. When i had asked him the day we broke up, he just told me he couldnt explain it but that it was nothing i did. His response was "we already talked about that" i told him "no, u just told u did, u never told me why" and then i asked him was it my behavior? Well this time instead of saying it wasnt anything i did, he just said "i dunno" ... so i got my chance to tell him that i didnt blame him for leaving me that i acted horribly and that ive done a lot of soul searching and am making a lot of changes in my life. (You can see from the original break up thread what i mean by my behavior) I told him that he never made me unhappy, that i was the one unhappy with ME. Anyway, i said all that and then i said "ok lets change the subject now lol" because i didnt want things to get to deep. He texted me back and said thats cool with a "lol" at my comment about changing the subject. I took the advice of the person in my other thread and said something to him about maybe we should chill out on him seeing the kids that i dont wanna hurt them, i said this to him earlier yesterday and he said to me and adamant "NO" I guess im just so confused and my situation seems to be a little diff than the norm considering im pretty damn positive im the one that pushed him away. I dont contact him and i let him have his space, he has initiated contact with me. He isnt getting his cake and eating it too so to speak, because im not just sitting here waitin on his call, i have things to do like improving me which ive been totally working on. Am i doing the right thing here? Im trying to keep the mentality of "expect the worst but hope for the best" and i hope thats the way i should be. I feel sorta like i made a baby step yesterday when his response about falling out of love with me was "i dunno" regarding the question to if it was my behavior. Like i stated earlier, the day he left he swore to me it was nothing i did, i feel he would have said the same thing yesterday if that were truly the case but this time he said he didnt know. He does have a hard time talking about what he feels inside and i know without pressure, he eventually opens up its just that before, i would always pressure him thats why im trying so hard now to back off and never pressure him again about what he feels. Thoughts .. advice...opinions?