Hi,
I and my spouse are having sexual problems. The spouse's parents want a baby. I and my spouse have no intention of having a baby for the next couple of years. The spouse tells his parents in detail about the sexual problems.He hides this from me. Infact, he lies about this to me. The spouse's parents who are basically crazy people go to my parents and tell them that my spouse and I have an abnormal relationship. We don't live normally, we are having troubles in sex life and that we should have marriage counselling. They also tell this to my brother. I am a very private person and I feel terribly exposed to the world about the personal sexual problem that we are having. I feel like that this marriage is not between me and my spouse but actually between my spouse and his parents. I feel like an outsider. Does any of you feel like that? Any reply, opnion, advice will be greatly appreciated.

[Outcast]

Tell him to cut it out now or your marriage will be in trouble. Then insist on counselling.

[Mary3]

Invite them into the bedroom if they want to get into your sexual business.

[littlekitty]

Have you not spoken to your husband about how you feel about this? What does he say about it?

It should not be any of his parents business what you do in the bedroom! I can't understand why he would even want to discuss this with his parents.

Ugh! I would be horrified if my partner talked to my parents....his parents...ANYONE's parents...about our sexual life!

Damn. That's nasty!

Talk to your husband about how violated you feel. And you two probably should be in counseling. He seems to have a very different idea about privacy than you do..

[SmoochieFace]

What sort of a person would run to his/her family to discuss intimate details such as this?

Originally Posted by SmoochieFace

What sort of a person would run to his/her family to discuss intimate details such as this?

I actually was (briefly) engaged to a guy who did such a thing!

We were fighting and not having sex. He talked to my PARENTS about it!


I was so mortified I could barely speak or eat for two days. Our family is very private, normally.


He had other areas with serious lack of boundaries; he used to just walk on me in the bathroom, no matter what! I could say, 'Stop! I'm in here!' and he'd laugh and just walk in.

If I locked the door, he'd pick the lock with the excuse, 'We only have one bathroom. Besides, why are you so uptight?'


He was way too free with his bodily functions around me too. Burping, farting, etc

He also would go into my purse anytime he felt like it. And thought it was fine to read my mail.


Some people have NO sense of what makes other people uncomfortable or what might be considered an invasion of personal space.

[Mary3]

Originally Posted by Guest

I actually was (briefly) engaged to a guy who did such a thing!

We were fighting and not having sex. He talked to my PARENTS about it!


I was so mortified I could barely speak or eat for two days. Our family is very private, normally.


He had other areas with serious lack of boundaries; he used to just walk on me in the bathroom, no matter what! I could say, 'Stop! I'm in here!' and he'd laugh and just walk in.

If I locked the door, he'd pick the lock with the excuse, 'We only have one bathroom. Besides, why are you so uptight?'


He was way too free with his bodily functions around me too. Burping, farting, etc

He also would go into my purse anytime he felt like it. And thought it was fine to read my mail.


Some people have NO sense of what makes other people uncomfortable or what might be considered an invasion of personal space.

Thats really Yuck ~ ! Good thing you left him