[HornPilot]

Hey im a 23 year old guy and ive going out with my girlfriend for almost 7 months now, she is the first girl I’ve ever loved and I really do love her and I do believe she feels the same. We have some great times together and im happiest when with her. The problem lies with me, from time to time for some reason I keep on acting like an idiot for no real reason, she's never nothing but nice to me but I start arguments over nothing and I dunno why I do it, Ive never felt like this for a girl in my past so ive never done this with any prior girlfriends. Basically she's getting sick of me being acting in this way and I dont blame her, I really upset her last night and almost lost her, she has said I have one last chance, but she wants some space for the moment. I've realised the way ive been acting is stupid and uncalled for, I dont want to lose her, I just hope im not too late!! any opinions would be welcome!!

[pinkFirm]

Aw just have a serious talk with her.. And ask her what it is that bothers her about you. Tell her that you will change beacuse you dont want to lose her. If she really cares about you she will consider accepting your changes and continue with the relationship.

[megnog]

what exactly do you do? do you get mad at her for going out? do you just randomly call her a bi*ch? i mean, what the hell do you do?
sometimes i pick random fights over stupid things.. and if thats what the case is, i can relate. i don't know why i do it.. my boyfriend says its because i like drama but i don't think thats the case. i don't have any advice for you unfortunately but i guess to catch yourself before you are able to do anything that would make her upset. its okay, if you two love eachother then it will work out

[HornPilot]

Hey thanks for replying, I never say anything really mean or call her names, its mainly if we're both out together with groups of people we know, I often feel she doesn’t spend enough time with me, seeing as we're both busy I dont get to see her as much as I would like, of course I know we cant spend every minute together but sometimes I get annoyed when I feel she wouldn’t notice if I was even there, then ill say something like I might go home cos you wouldn’t even notice if I did, its always something trivial like that but it really annoys her, im just trying to get her attention I guess. When we go out and its just me and her there's never a problem. Basically if I just relax there wouldn’t be a problem at anytime. She has been in touch today, so I guess that’s a good sign!!

[megnog]

aw, thats really sweet.
maybe you should try telling her these things if you haven't already. the fact that you want attention from her should bring a smile to her face. you just want to be with her as much as possible but with busy lives it can be hard. i hope its not one of those relationships where you like her more than she likes you. i'm sure its not, but i wanted to make sure.

anyway, you gave yourself some advice.. just relax. if at all possible, try to tell yourself that its okay if you don't spend every waking minute together, that way when you do spend time, it will be like magic. as long as you guys don't cut eachother out of your lives and you MAKE time for eachother, your relationship is fine.
also , maybe you could surprise her and make arrangements to do something like go out to dinner, go out to a play, when you are both not busy

[rina_r]

Originally Posted by HornPilot

I start arguments over nothing and I dunno why I do it, (

You need to grow up.