For a long time, I wondered if I would ever find the right woman. A few years out of college, I met a woman and began dating her, then we were married 4 years later, but the truth is that I never had that "feeling" that one supposedly gets when he/she is truly in love. In fact, I wasn't sure that such a feeling was even possible. Well, the wife and I get along okay, but the fact is that we are very different in both personality and background. I'm a small-town boy, she's the big-city girl; I am reserved and somewhat shy, she is extremely talkative and brash; I was one of four siblings and learned early that the world doesn't revolve around me; she was an only child and to this day is quite self-centered. I could go on and on.

Then, a few years ago, I happened to meet a 5'11" blonde who just floored me the minute I saw her. She was a kind, gentle, soft-spoken, small-town girl who caused my heart to fall through the floor. That "feeling" I had never felt before just took over my whole body. The more I talked to her, the more I realized that she just might be the most perfect woman I had ever seen. I can't go an hour without thinking about her. I would love to spend the rest of my life with her, but I really don't want to hurt the current Mrs. me, no matter how crazy she drives me sometimes.

So, am I just a daydreaming fool destined to be miserable for the rest of my days?????

[Outcast]

Why did you marry?

[newbby]

are you sure you never had that feeling?
if you are then maybe you should leave the marriage anyway, because she can not compete with anybody else who you get the feeling with. you both deserve to have real love. on the other hand, maybe that feeling isnt so important, perhaps solid built over time love is what really matters.
what do you think?

[whichwayisup]

Do you two have children together? If so, then maybe you owe it to your kids to head to marriage counselling and really try to make the marriage work.

If you don't have kids, and you feel this way, it's best to end the marriage so your wife can find someone else who will love her the way a husband is supposed to feel about his wife.

I'm sure it won't be an easy thing to do, but imagine your life in another 10 years? Being with someone you're not inlove with?