I have been reading posts on this site for a while now and am totally relating to so many of you. Although until now I have only been observing and learning from all of your experiences, I have a question for all of you OW who are facing the same desperation I am.
I've come to the conclusion that men don't leave their wives for another woman (the majority of them). First of all, they hate change. Also, they don't want to carry the guilt of walking out on their families. Men only leave when the W kicks them out after finding out about the A.
My Question: Have any of you ever done something purposely to your MM to get him caught by his W without him finding out it was you? And what was the result of it?
No, I haven't but I sure have dreamed about it! One of the reasons I never would is because here's what always happens, like, 99.9% of the time:
He tells the W that the OW never meant anything to him, and he'll then turn it around and blame the OW for everything. She's obsessed with me, stalks me, I hate her, etc...
The A was painful enough. I couldn't bear to go through that kind of humiliation on top of it.
I can't believe how little imagination you women have. You don't get the husband caught. You know a LOT about the wife from all of the conversations you've had with the H. What you do is write your MM an anonymous note claiming to be the lover of the wife, and outing her. He's going to believe it, he'll want to believe it. she'll never be able to disprove it. How do you prove a negative? and voila! the marriage is over and he's yours. That's what I'm gonna do when I'm ready for fulltime.
OMG, how clever, I never would have thought of that. Sometimes we become so desperate and anxious that we don't think straight but you've just put a whole new twist on things. Thanks!
First of all, that wouldn't work on my MM. His W would never do that! I know she would never do that, so he definetly knows she would never do that.
If he's going to be in my life, i want him to be with me because HE LOVES ME! I don't want to get him any other way.
I would never purposely "out" him. I love him, and that means, i don't want to see him in pain. I don't want to see her or the kids in pain. Although i know this will happen if we do get caught, i don't want to do this on purpose, just so he will come crawling to me.
I can't believe how little imagination you women have. You don't get the husband caught. You know a LOT about the wife from all of the conversations you've had with the H. What you do is write your MM an anonymous note claiming to be the lover of the wife, and outing her. He's going to believe it, he'll want to believe it. she'll never be able to disprove it. How do you prove a negative? and voila! the marriage is over and he's yours. That's what I'm gonna do when I'm ready for fulltime.
My, you've fooled yourself saf. The part I've bolded, uhmm, the MM is lying to his wife, so please don't tell me you think he's being 100% honest with you! He IS NOT going to really tell you the truth about what goes on between him and his wife.
And, there's no guarantee that just because she finds out about her husbands affair their marriage is over. You assume alot...And you're also quite devious and nasty. Don't know how you sleep at night, or look yourself in the mirror. Many of the OW here honestly fall into affairs with NO intention of hurting someone, and yes, the outcomes are usually the same - But what you do is pre-planned and intentional. You have no respect for anybody, let alone yourself.
First of all, that wouldn't work on my MM. His W would never do that! I know she would never do that, so he definetly knows she would never do that.
If he's going to be in my life, i want him to be with me because HE LOVES ME! I don't want to get him any other way.
I would never purposely "out" him. I love him, and that means, i don't want to see him in pain. I don't want to see her or the kids in pain. Although i know this will happen if we do get caught, i don't want to do this on purpose, just so he will come crawling to me.
ditto still here...I love my MM and his family is a part of his life whether I like it or not and I have no intentions on purposely hurting them..if my MM wants to be with me he knows what he has to do.
however he has said and I believe he wants to get caught because it's to hard for him to leave, but I won't be the catalyst for that not by choice anyway.
Yes ive done similiar stuff to get my married men caught at times when i wanted to break up their marriage. i only did it though because the sex was dwindling. he seemed to want to repair their relationship, so i went hardcore and made her look bad. the last guy i did this with, i now live with and help raise his daughter. his daughter calls me mommy and i love kids.
Yes ive done similiar stuff to get my married men caught at times when i wanted to break up their marriage. i only did it though because the sex was dwindling. he seemed to want to repair their relationship, so i went hardcore and made her look bad. the last guy i did this with, i now live with and help raise his daughter. his daughter calls me mommy and i love kids.
You join the site tonight, just to add that in. How ironic.
Sorry, maybe I'm wrong. It's just a recent trend that people are posting how to "get" their man, showing no respect, no thought to their actions, it seems that the "me me me" attitude has taken over. Stealing another woman's husband, and flaunting it!
Well this wife was a bitch and always strung out on prescription drugs anyways so i think it helped out the kid. i was selfish but sometimes it takes that to get what you want. if i thought about how my actions were going to affect everyone all the time, i would never get much done and might as well be homebound. i dont see lawyers worry about how they railroaded some schmuck out of his life savings or politicians lose a nights rest after they get someone slain to protect their image and reputation. and these people are praised. what i did was minor in comparison. maybe because i dont like women much, it doesn't bother me.
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My, you've fooled yourself saf. The part I've bolded, uhmm, the MM is lying to his wife, so please don't tell me you think he's being 100% honest with you! He IS NOT going to really tell you the truth about what goes on between him and his wife. 
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