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Old 10th August 2006, 10:15 AM   #1
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My receptionist is stealing $.

I caught my receptionist stealing $30 yesterday. I've been watching her for the past few months and yesterday she finally slipped.

She knows, that I know, that she knows. I just didn't out and out say, "Hey, I saw what you did, I am calling the cops, and you'll be fired!"

I just kept my mouth shut, and kept it to myself. Didn't even tell MY boss/owner.

What the heck is wrong with me? Am I a coward?

Our professional chemistry is awesome. She makes my job easier. After two years of working side by side, we have a work rhythm going between the two of us. I had a feeling though.

I almost feel like letting it slide............

I guess that makes me as guilty as her, huh?
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:24 AM   #2
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I caught my receptionist stealing $30 yesterday. I've been watching her for the past few months and yesterday she finally slipped.
So you already knew, or felt, that she was stealing money?

Or is there a "missing money" problem in your office?


I don't think you are a coward, or as guilty as her. You are just a human being, and you don't feel like reporting a person that you would otherwise like, that you've known and worked with for a long time, and you get along well with. Luckily.

Perhaps the money disapparitions will stop automatically, now that she knows that you know.
Also, you could have a talk with her about it. She might be extremely embarassed, or she might deny everything and get mad.
I wonder if she'll act the same way as before towards you or even bring up the subject herself.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:26 AM   #3
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I just kept my mouth shut, and kept it to myself. Didn't even tell MY boss/owner.

What the heck is wrong with me? Am I a coward?
Heres what you do LUVTOTO...tell her you busted her and she needs to replace the ca$h. Also tell her next time you catch her you'll start singing like a canary.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:28 AM   #4
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I forgot to add, I would not be surprised if you got some "a couple of times I borrowed some cash from the office, but I always returned it" kind of excuse.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:30 AM   #5
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You need to tell your supervisor what you saw and let management handle it from there.

If she gets caught and your boss finds out that you knew and said nothing they will not take kindly to that.

If a friend of yours was stealing from you and another friend knew and did nothing to warn you and you found out later then you would most likely not trust that friend that didn't tell you what was going on.

You don't have to bust her out totally and file a complaint. Just tell your boss what you saw and let it go.
You didn't create the scenario but you are responsible for letting it continue at this point.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:31 AM   #6
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Ask her for a cut, say 60%.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:36 AM   #7
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Is it known there's an issue with missing money?

It might be better to report her and have it cleared up, rather than perhaps allow suspicion to go on, and indeed possibly find yourself a suspect?
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:50 AM   #8
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So you already knew, or felt, that she was stealing money?

Or is there a "missing money" problem in your office?
We've had a money shortage for the last few months. Seems like when I cash out the drawer, the money is just not there anymore. I've been telling my boss of my suspiscions. The last time, I mentioned something to him, he was ready to call the cops, but didn't. It's just my word against hers, basically.

I don't think you are a coward, or as guilty as her. You are just a human being, and you don't feel like reporting a person that you would otherwise like, that you've known and worked with for a long time, and you get along well with. Luckily.
I have worked with her for a long time, she's a hell of a worker. I know her kids, she knows mine...we are friends. I'd feel really bad for turning her in. UGH!

Perhaps the money disapparitions will stop automatically, now that she knows that you know.
I am hoping. She knows I caught her. She got really nice to me after it happened. She had a long excuse about something that didn't make any sense. Something about how she thought it was her money, but then she found her money in the trash in a bag from her shopping. Talking really fast and not making eye contact. I've never seen her talk so nervously before. I figured, she'd put it back, but nope.

Also, you could have a talk with her about it. She might be extremely embarassed, or she might deny everything and get mad. I wonder if she'll act the same way as before towards you or even bring up the subject herself.
The last time I had suspiscions (sp?) of her stealing, I did say something like, "Hmm...I wonder what is happening to the money? This is very strange." She said that she could never steal from the owners, they are next to God in her eyes. Plus, she would have to answer to God in the end".
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:52 AM   #9
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It might be better to report her and have it cleared up, rather than perhaps allow suspicion to go on, and indeed possibly find yourself a suspect?
There's a thought....
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:53 AM   #10
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All this God stuff is real nice, but if she's stealing, she's stealing.

If you know about it and don't say anything, you could be considered an accessory after the fact.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:54 AM   #11
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I have worked with her for a long time, she's a hell of a worker. I know her kids, she knows mine...we are friends. I'd feel really bad for turning her in. UGH!.
Thats the reasoning behind not mixing your business life with your personal life. Dont' date or become friends with people you work with. Its always a bad idea.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:56 AM   #12
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But really what kind of friend is she? If she can justify stealing from work what else can she do. Do you really know her or just think you do.
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There's a thought....
Since she didn't replace the money, and seems content to lie about it to you, this may not be the end of the missing money.

I certainly don't envy you having this decision to make, but you also have a responsibility to the owners - they pay your wages.
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Old 10th August 2006, 10:58 AM   #14
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But really what kind of friend is she? If she can justify stealing from work what else can she do. Do you really know her or just think you do.
Just think I know her.
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Old 10th August 2006, 11:07 AM   #15
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Just think I know her.
Yeah and all of the BTK killer's friends and family thought they knew him also. Wasn't he like a church leader and all that? Yep, i think so.
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