Janet,
I am so sorry about your loss- and I understand. I think it is perfectly natural to still need your mother. Only her body is gone- not your feelings, your love and your need for her- these things will probably always remain. The pain however, will fade in time- but not completely disappear. There are always going to times when you need her- and things will remind you of her- this is how the memories stay alive- so it is a good thing.
You can still talk to her- anytime you want to- and she has probably taught you well enough -that you will be able to solve your problems without actually "hearing" her words. In this-she will always remain with you.
I am 29 years old- and my grandmother died when I was 11. I still miss her deeply- and I have dreams about her all the time. In my dreams- she is still alive- and in my life as it is today. I love those dreams- and look forward to having them.
We all have ways of keeping out memories alive- some positive and some not. Instead of missing your Mom only when you are upset about something- concentrate on remembering her in a positive setting. Go to the places she enjoyed- listen to the music that she liked, visit her friends, look at old pictures. You aren't expected to stop missing her- ever. She is your mother and you will always feel connected with her- remember- "this is a good thing."
Jenna
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does the pain ever go away? i mean when i get in a fight with my fiance my first instinct is to call my mom, and suddenly i realize i can never ever call her again. i get so frustrated. my mom was my only friend and now i have no one but my kids but are all grown. i get so angry that she is gone, i want and need to talk to her and cry on her shoulder, but she is not available any more. is this sick or unhealthy? does the pain ever go away of missing someone? i just wish one more time i could talk to her, just to tell her i miss her and i need her.
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