[Lilly]

My ex-boyfriend wants us to get back together after we've been apart for almost a year. We still have strong feelings for each other and I would like for us to get together again also. We dated for a year before we broke up. He came over to my house last week and while we were talking, he mentioned he saw me on Match.com and wanted to know if I found anyone. I told him no and that I had taken my profile down. I wanted to tell him so bad that I saw his profile on Lavalife, but Lavalife is such a sleezy dating website, I didn't have the nerve to tell him. His profile is still on Lavalife even though he has not been back on it since we talked. How can I ask him in a nice way what he plans to do about Lavalife if he wants us to get back together. He can't have his cake and eat it too! I'm not good in situations like this, but he can't keep a profile on Lavalife and date me.

[destination_unknown]

Lilly, he asked you about your profile that he had seen, why do you feel uncomfortable asking him about his? If he has a freaker because you ask then its a red flag. Don't be afraid to say something for fear he will go nuts.

[been7077]

I suppose it belabors the obvious, but be very careful about going back, especially if you were left for someone else. Yes, he should take down his profile and you should have no fear to ask him. I got caught up in someone wanting to come back and ended up being attacked physically by the lug. Yes, she saw me attacked and went right back to him. She still calls and wants to get back together, but this last was unforgivable, and she is still with him. Be careful, very careful.

[Lilly]

Thank you both for responding very much. No, we did not break up because of another person. We both had just gone through a divorce and I guess the timing just wasn't right. I will definitey let him know that I know he is on Lavalife and he will have to decide on what it is he wants to do.