Heres my problem...

My husband and I have been separated for a short time. Everytime we get together to talk we end up having sex. Half the time we dont have anything to say to each other. I usually do all the talking, I am trying so hard to allow him to talk to me. But really he has nothing to say. I am starting to feel used. Dont get me wrong I enjoy being with him, matter of fact I feel if I have sex with him he would come back to me. But when it is all over, it feels so cheap.

I got locked out of the house tonight. I had no way in, so my last resort I had to call him. I was doing so good not calling. He told me he would come, but he was busy at that moment so hang tight. Well he finally came. When he came in he started looking thru some things he left behind.. I think he was doing a inventory on what he left behind. Before I know it we were kissing, touching, and having sex (I would like to say making love, but not sure what to call it anymore). I tried hard to resist. hmmmm, I guess you know what happen next, he won, he got what he wanted we had sex and then he left...

I dont know what to do... I love him so much.... I dont think he loves me anymore.. what to do!!!! I feel like he is never going to come back to me.. love hurts...............

[P1xie]

If you feel cheap than you need to stop. At least you aren't thinking he loves you just because you are having sex since you are having a hard time referring it to as making love.

You are letting yourself be used.

[Gunny376]

One day I was wanting to get "frisky" with her, and she pushed me away, and rejected my advances. She told me, "Oh! No! It doesn't come that easy! You've got to work for it!"

This was after we had been living together for six years.

You know what, she was right. She wasn't talking about my going and getting a second job and buying her a Lexus, or diamonds, she was talking about I had to "work" for it. And, the thing is, I really enjoyed "working" for it as much as, if not more than actually getting it.

Again PEOPLE! Listen up! You've got to make yourself a challenge to each other! You've got to be a challenge to them, and they've got to be a challenge to you! You've got to work to keep it interesting, and challenging ~ but in a good way, in a positive way!

You've got to work for it, and you've got to make them work for it! You cherish that which you sweated over, cried over, gave blood, sweat and tears over!