I guess my other thread was too long to be read, as I supsected it might. It's either that, or no one has any opinions.
So, let me try again:
My guy and I have known each other almost 20 years; we've dated off and on during some of that time, mostly off. Things never did quite work out for various reasons, but we generally remained friends and that friendship has grown over the years.
About 18 months ago, we started seeing each other again. Since we got together this time, everything has been wonderful. We are both very loving and affectionate, we see each other often, and I finally have it through my head that he does love me, and he’s finally getting it that he’s in love with me. Our sex life is fantastic, and the intimacy is more than either of us have felt with anyone in a long, long time.
So why am I posting? Because we’re pushing 40 now, and he still calls love the L word. He’s still a ‘forever is a very long time’ guy…even though it’s not as long as it used to be! I have my own fear of intimacy issues, so I feel like we’re in a catch 22.
For him to be comfortable with forever, he needs to see/feel the deepest intimacy with me. For me to be comfortable with that kind of intimacy, I need a commitment from him. I’m afraid to open up completely and give everything of myself for fear of getting hurt; I need a level of commitment that’s more than he can give without the complete intimacy.
Is there any hope for us?
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