[Ardon]

I am in the first relationship of my life its been almost 3 months now... so everything ive done with her has been my first time... so far its just been movies, lunch, beach, making out/feeling each other up... but not pleasuring each other yet.. nothing sexual.. occasionally grab a boob or stroke the panty waist line and kiss on the neck or stomach but nothing further... maybe taking off our shirts but not her bra... my situation is that im pretty sure she wants to take it a step further but iam not experienced in this.. i don't know where to take it from here and what to do... she asked me what i thought about sex the other day... we talked about it.. she also said there are other things besides sex (obviously) but i think that was a hint... so what move do i make the next time we are making out? and after i get past that step what comes next etc etc... until sex... i want like a dating timeline of how and when you should push things further... its not like i really need those things, i feel like a bastard asking for this advice, but it makes the relationship stronger and we have to get past the awkwardness and lose are virginity sometime... and i dont want her to think ive lost interest in her or her to lose interest in me... i think she wants me and i just need to start making some bigger moves.... where do i start

thanks for any help, i hope you understand what iam asking

[beachlover]

There is not a relationship timeline, it is different for every couple. Don't rush into anything too fast, and don't puch her to do anything. The best way to figure out what she wants is to bring it up casually and see what her thoughts are on the subject.

i cant really help you but think of this analogy thingo,

when you walk up a hill covered in snow its hard to walk up the first time.
but then once you have made the footprints its easy to walk up.
think of the top of the hill as sex. once you do it once it will be easy the next time.

i have no idea why i said that.
just saying one step at a time

[Ardon]

ok i am pretty damn sure she wants to go further and is waiting for me to make a move... shes the kind of girl that won't make a move even if she really wants to. I am asking what do i do one step above what ive already done? we obviously dont just jump to oral or something from where iam... i need guidance on what exactly to do in detail from where we are right now

[Brittanyjean06]

Jump on it than! jk

Don't rush her just let the making out lead you to somewhere else. And if it doesn't than let it be.

[Sonic_chaos]

Me personally im really finding it hard to understand that you cant visualise what step to go next.. dont wanna go full on sex yet, yep thats fair enough, Not striaght on to oral activities yet, ok so whats in between getting to the panty line and stopping no further and getting down there for some oral? maybe slip them panties aside and play for a while down there? maybe take her bra off or leaving it on and licking/kissing playing with her nipples thro her bra or with it off.

if she likes that then dont be shy about licking/kissing her body, ie stomach, inside leg, torso etc.

theres no guidelines at all as everyone is different just have to play it by ear and see how different activties work for her with you.