[almostthere]

My bf just called. His ex is moving in with a man she has been dating for only 3 weeks. That is not the problem. Well i think it is because I dont want those kids to move in with someone get to like him and have the exwife leave him too. These kids have been through enough already!

Anyway...She wants to move a little over an hour away. The problem is is that we have them over every Tuesday and Thursday night for dinner. We both get home from work about 6:30 and then we take them home by 8:00 (during school) and 8:30 (during summer). This we no longer be available to us anymore because by the time we pick them up and get back home it will be 7:30 and in order to have them home by 8 we would need to leave our house at 7. Just doesnt work.

Do we have any say in this at all?

I think I will offer to my bf for him to go straight there on those nights from work and then have dinner out there at McDonalds or something and go to a park or whatever and then drop them off and come home around 9:30. Thats the only way i can see this working.

He can take them every Sunday instead of every other sunday (well maybe I am not sure if she will be willing to do this again) but i feel horrible to say this but I need my sundays to study and he doesnt like it when i go to the library because i am away from him all day. I dont have my kids on sundays. They are with their dad. That is my study day. I hope i dont sound rude but I am trying to get through school. And i cannot babysit on saturday until he gets home from work because that is also my time to study. I work fulltime and dont get home til 7pm at night. by the time i open a book its 9:00. then i am up for 3 or 4 hours studying. I cannot add even an extra hour throughout the week for studying because there isnt any time as you can see.

We are stuck though arent we? We are stuck with having to allow her to move because all she has to do is prove that it is for the good of the kids. i have never been on this side. I have always been the single mom trying for child support and moving out of state or out of the county. I have never had to defend myself in what seems to be a losing battle.

[amaysngrace]

You can go to the courthouse that deals with the probation and speak to someone there about the current situation.

For some reason, I'm under the impression that moving the children further away from the other parent needs to be justified (better job, better doctor if the children have health issues, etc)

I don't think shacking up with a BF of three weeks qualifies.

You can also make the point of switching schools. It's not fair to the children.