I have noticed a few things about my drinking habits (alcohol) over the past few months.
I use to consider myself a sporadically heavy drinker. Doing the empties a couple of years ago I noticed the significant number of empty booze bottles and it kind of bothered me. I never felt that I had a drinking problem as I could go for several weeks without drinking a drop but could make up for it with several martinis over an evening. Looking at the bank statement, which my wife often pointed out, I was spending $50-100 a week on alcohol and wine.
Close to a year ago I separated from my wife. I noticed that almost immediately my drinking habits changed. I started to drink far less. I even found myself opening a bottle of wine and only having a glass rather than the whole bottle. My liquor cabinet is fully stocked but much of it is unopened.
However, a few months ago I met someone and have dated fairly steady since then. I have noticed that when I am with her I drink. Usually just wine and once again never just one glass. But, the weeks that I am alone I don't drink a drop.
This weekend I was alone. Great weekend around the pool of my condo complex where a few people were enjoying various alcoholic drinks, me...nothing. Not even the slightest desire.
I realize there is probably some deeper meaning than just being happier with myself than with some others, thus no need to drink. But I find it very interesting that one moment I could be drinking several drinks a night and the next week nothing.
I'm convinced that drinking will probably land me a wife, kids, a life of stability, and lasting happiness, only because I avoid those things while sober.
Could it be that you think you need it when you're around others? It may be that when you first started drinking you used it as a sort of "liquid courage."
I too was going to suggest that it stems from basic insecurity. I'm guessing that you started drinking as a teenager when you felt you needed booze to make you 'cool' and/or to impress the ladies with your smooth Bond style and became convinced that you're not a man unless you're soused.
Think of the great holidays you could have taken your ladies away on with five K per year!!!
I understand that the Isles have a particular fondness for alcohol as recreation.
Pity. It just seems so lazy and uncreative to me. Go to a bar. Drink. Puke. Repeat ad infinitum. When there are so many interesting things to do on this planet.
I understand that the Isles have a particular fondness for alcohol as recreation.
Pity. It just seems so lazy and uncreative to me. Go to a bar. Drink. Puke. Repeat ad infinitum. When there are so many interesting things to do on this planet.
Yea... the bar scene is the Irish social scene that is true. It is also true that many do your "Recipe for a night out". But they are losers.
We have a really good time when we go out. Play music and meet all the tourists. I have met some really great people from New Zealanders to Canadians and had a whale of time, and no one puked!!
Well a few did when they heard me singing but that is another story!
I just got back from a three-week vacation to Ireland, and a lot of the people met me. Some of them told me there's a dark underside to the alcoholism that's passed off as heritable loveliness.
Then a different one told me the secret to getting a pint on Good Friday.
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I just got back from a three-week vacation to Ireland, and a lot of the people met me. Some of them told me there's a dark underside to the alcoholism that's passed off as heritable loveliness.
Then a different one told me the secret to getting a pint on Good Friday.
Could it be that you think you need it when you're around others? It may be that when you first started drinking you used it as a sort of "liquid courage."
I don't know. You're a binge drinker though.
I am very much an extravert when I drink or don't drink. As for the "liquid courage" part, I never drink at work or family functions other than maybe a glass of wine. I am typically the designated driver type plus the life of the party.
Part of me thinks that it is just when I am in a relationship but I can't figure out why.
Oh, I have a Scottish heritage, which may explain part of it.
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