Should I marry an older Girl?

naveennagpal1981 · 2nd July 2006, 9:37 AM

I am a hindu by religion & it is considered a sin to marry a women older to a guy & i am in the same dilema, my folks do not mind love marriage but when they found out tha my girl friend is 1.5yrs older to me they are strict against it. I cannot live without her coz i love her a lot & she loves me too... what i want to know is, if there is any biological effect or any such problem which may come up after our marriage. Any myths surrounding this?

jerbear · 2nd July 2006, 10:35 AM

I personally do not see an issue even but religious, cultural, ethnic, familial, and even social norms can hold one in a status quo.

1.5 years older biologically seems fine.

Women tend to live longer so why not trim the window of time between your death and hers?
If she is entering menopause, then yes that 1.5 years will have biological implications.

I bought up the issues with my family.

I am the one who wakes up to her
I am the one who has to deal with life's issues with her
She will be the mother of your grandkids
I want to be happy

Outcast · 2nd July 2006, 11:46 AM

A 'sin'??

Why?

A year and a half is nothing! Maybe if she were 10 or 20 years older I could see a problem but a year and a half means absolutely zip.

Craig · 2nd July 2006, 1:13 PM

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Originally Posted by naveennagpal1981

I am a hindu by religion & it is considered a sin to marry a women older to a guy

Naveen, I am curious about your religion's rules.

Under your religion how does a woman become older than the man? Is it based on a date of conception? For example, if a woman was conceived one month earlier than the man but the woman was born one month premature and the man was a little late in being born, then the woman would have an earlier birth date and be younger but also have an earlier conception date and be older too if you look at it that way.

If a woman is 1 minute older than a man is that then a sin to marry? At what point is a woman considered "older" than the man.

Personally I think 1.5 years is nothing to worry about.

Fun2BMe · 3rd July 2006, 7:08 AM

I know many women who are married to younger men. They have children and have been happy together. What are the problems your religion describes for it to be a sin? I cannot think of any.

norajane · 3rd July 2006, 2:58 PM

1.5 years difference = NO EFFECT at all, biological or otherwise. No problems, whatsoever.

And there are no myths, either, unless they exist in your religion/culture. In fact, this is the first time I've ever heard any religion say marrying an older woman is a sin. Personally, I don't see why any god would care.

Poboy · 4th July 2006, 4:36 AM

Hi Naveen

im a hindu too and i know where you are coming from although ive never heard that it is sin to marry older woman , ill have to check with my folks.

well we are living in the 21st century and yes keeping cultures and tradition alive is important but i feel your parents are being unresoanable with this. 1.5 yrs is not that much of a difference. if you really love this girl , convince your parents that she is the one for you and cant do without her. what abt her folks and views on this ? if your parents agree to it then all good otherwise last resort will be court marriage

there are NO problems in marrying someone older , phyiscally or anything.

naveennagpal1981 · 4th July 2006, 9:25 AM

Thank You All... This really helped me a lot...

Sally00 · 11th July 2006, 3:20 AM

I am 8 months older than my boyfriend. We've been together for almost 6 months. 1.5 years older is NO BIG DEAL. Age doesn't matter... unless it's like a 10 year difference or something.

If you really love this girl, stay with her. Don't break up with her because of her age. I think that'll be horrible.

And your parents/religion/etc. shouldn't stop you from dating this girl. It is YOUR life... not anyone else's.