I am 19 years old and I'm wondering if girls generally like guys who are "good boys" or if they like rebels. Because lately I've been mixing it up and trying to keep them guessing, but I'm not sure if they want to feel safe around me or if they want to feel as though I'm exciting and challenging..I'd especially like to hear what Tony has to say about this. Thanks.

[Tony T]

It really depends on what kind of lady your going after. Different girls like different kinds of guys. And not all girls that like physically attractive guys like all physically attractive guys, etc. It's sort of a chemistry thing.

You're best off just being yourself, not being too nice, not being too cool, not coming on too strong.

And what is your definition of a "good guy." To some girls, a good guy is a guy who's good in bed. To others, a good guy is one who will supply them with all the weed they can smoke. To many, I suppose, a good guy is one who is kind, considerate, responsible and who would make a pretty good long term boyfriend.

A lot of it also depends on the girl's age. Some young girls do like rebels, other young girls like guys their parents don't like; some like guys who have sharp cars and are good dancers, and there are some who like guys who are really smart in school. There are many that like guys who don't like them.

Older ladies are more stable and tend more to enjoy guys who are fiancially and emotionally together. They too, however, enjoy challenges and don't normally like men who are readily available and kiss their butts.

This is really not something you ought to be worrying about. Just be yourself and you'll find ladies who like you for you. Just don't tolerate anyone who treats you poorly.

Im am a 21 yr old female and im am so sick of egotistical guys...if youre wondering what type of guys girls like, most of us like shy guys that are cute not geeky shy guys..but cute caring sweet and sensitive guys..i cant even tell you how hard it is to find a sensitive guy now a days that doesnt have an ego..girls like romance and the flowers and candy idea never died even though many seem to think it has..

read my post further down the list... what you says doesnt sseem to work either, it scares them off lol

Im am a 21 yr old female and im am so sick of egotistical guys...if youre wondering what type of guys girls like, most of us like shy guys that are cute not geeky shy guys..but cute caring sweet and sensitive guys..i cant even tell you how hard it is to find a sensitive guy now a days that doesnt have an ego..girls like romance and the flowers and candy idea never died even though many seem to think it has..

[Tony T]

REad my post again as well. I said there are many kinds of ladies that are attracted to many kinds of men.

There are some, like Blackhertz, who do like shy, sweet, sensitive guys. But those ladies are NOT the norm until age 27-30. There are mature and intelligent ladies in their late teens that have their act together more and like exactly what Blackhertz has outlined.

You just have to find the ones who are attracted to what you have to offer. That's simply what it's all about.

Yes, most ladies like romance...but the way it is presented to them is as important as what their definition of romance is. There are just so many variables. Life is wonderful!!!

If you try to be a bad boy or a good boy it will just come across as fake anyway, so you might as well just show your own personality and if they don't like it, someone else will.

read my post further down the list... what you says doesnt sseem to work either, it scares them off lol