[Diver012]

Its been 2 months now since my Ex has broken up with me. At first I wondered for a brief moment if she had met someone else at work and was dating them. My mind immediately wrote this off by saying, she would be that stupid. She wouldnt dump one guy at work to date another one....

I think I was just protecting myself with that conclusion until I was ready to accept this as a possibility. It hurts to think about this, and if its true, I really dont know if it is or not, it would make my situation worse... I just pray that it doesnt take me back to square one... literally. Ive struggled very hard to get where Im at damnit.

[johan]

Originally Posted by Diver012

Its been 2 months now since my Ex has broken up with me. At first I wondered for a brief moment if she had met someone else at work and was dating them. My mind immediately wrote this off by saying, she would be that stupid. She wouldnt dump one guy at work to date another one....

I think I was just protecting myself with that conclusion until I was ready to accept this as a possibility. It hurts to think about this, and if its true, I really dont know if it is or not, it would make my situation worse... I just pray that it doesnt take me back to square one... literally. Ive struggled very hard to get where Im at damnit.

In the state of mind you're in, which I know well, the worst thing you can do is let your mind create fantasies of what she's doing and then feel them as if they were reality. It's the quickest route to serious depression there is. You have to recognize when you're doing this and then turn it off. I guarantee, whatever is going on, the version you come up with in your head does not match reality. And you're far better off not knowing either way.

[copper]

Originally Posted by johan

In the state of mind you're in, which I know well, the worst thing you can do is let your mind create fantasies of what she's doing and then feel them as if they were reality. It's the quickest route to serious depression there is. You have to recognize when you're doing this and then turn it off. I guarantee, whatever is going on, the version you come up with in your head does not match reality. And you're far better off not knowing either way.

Hear hear, thank you. I'm not Diver, but I did need to hear this. thank you.