So who out there feels as though they have to entertain their s/o. Maybe they don't have many friends so they have latched on to your's, maybe because they dont' have any friends they feel the need to be your shadow. *Tudor raises hand*
You know I enjoy the company of the wife, sexy...nice to look at, fun to party with, good conversation etc...but couples are still individuals that need some individual time without the other having to tag along for everything. For crying out loud she wants to go with me to play golf and drive the cart!
You know I enjoy the company of the wife, sexy...nice to look at, fun to party with, good conversation etc...but couples are still individuals that need some individual time without the other having to tag along for everything. For crying out load she wants to go with me to play golf and drive the cart!
LOL! Why does that remind me of a My Wife and Kids?
I agree, individuals in a relationship need time on their own. I am the kind of person where I love to be social, I love going out and I love having people I like around me, but when I need time alone... I need it right then!! So I can relate. I also like going out with just me and my girl friends!! SO is gone alot though so we actually don't get enough time together. We have the opposite problem you guys do.
Have you talked to her about this? Maybe mention her and her friends should hook up and have a girls day or night out? Does she not have any other friends besides you?
Have you talked to her about this? Maybe mention her and her friends should hook up and have a girls day or night out? Does she not have any other friends besides you?
This seems to be a big route of the problem....no she doesn't have any friends. She has one really good friend that had a baby and now never available. So she has befriended all my friends which is great but now that leaves me with her always there.
I'm really just venting....its not a major problem. I just don't paticular like having a shadow.
Tudor get her and the friend monthly spa gift certs, movie tickets, or send them off to watch a play......
Explain it this way: I know you really miss your friend, and I want you to have a good time with her.
You could join some type of org. together that she is really interested in and then you could quietly back out once she is very involved and starts making friends there.
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Why not encourage her to get out more by signing her up for an evening class for something she likes - book club, sewing class, scrap booking class, pottery, life drawing, mechanics....anything at all that she may have shown an interest in.
Or else teach her to play golf and then sign her up to a women's tournament and get her to play with other people?
You know I enjoy the company of the wife, sexy...nice to look at, fun to party with, good conversation etc...but couples are still individuals that need some individual time without the other having to tag along for everything. For crying out loud she wants to go with me to play golf and drive the cart!
LOL my hubby would love it if I asked to go with him golfing. He usually goes with his buddies, but he did mention he wouldn't mind me going some time. He also told me, HE would be driving the cart because when we went years ago, I turned the cart over going down a hill! Well forget it then, thats the whole reason I was going MR.
Let her go with you, and see how she likes it. Has she ever been before? Maybe she will hate it and wont want to go back with you.
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I have had a few partners like that. I am a pretty solitary person and I like my alone time, so I tend to get cast as the emotionally distant partner and I tend to attract men who like to chase after that. I've had partners ask that I caddy for them on the golf course (what?), sit in the car while they drive to the effing convenience store, everything. It does get annoying, but you have to think that just means they are trying to share your life, and maybe you are emotionally distant with them and this is their reaction to it.
I'm thinking that you're either frustrated by seeing her face all the time, but IME you can work through it and on the other side you either know that you definately are meant to be with that person if you can endure seeing their ugly mug 24/7, or that you have grown apart and that partner is just frantically trying to preserve the relationship. But I've never been able to tell the difference until I got to the end of the tunnel.
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I think it's pretty damn boring myself. But when I went I tried playing and it was ok when I actually got to hit balls
I also play frisbee golf and that is MUCH more fun. Who doesn't like to throw frisbees? And you don't use carts for that game, you ahve to hoof it, so you get more exercise.
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because when we went years ago, I turned the cart over going down a hill! Well forget it then, thats the whole reason I was going MR. 
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